Attracting a mate – Give It Up or Wait It Out?

December 20, 2009 by Tia · 20 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Intention, Law of Attraction 

Attracting loveThis is a topic that has been talked about in earlier posts (not necessarily related to relationships though) and was brought to my attention again recently.

You see, it’s that time of the year that I’ve been getting quite a few readers asking me about the best way to manifest a relationship (just something about the end of the year that makes us all evaluate our dreams and desires, maybe?).

I’ve heard stories of friends who decided what they wanted, made a list and focused on it till they met the love of their life.

Like my friend who intended to manifest her dream man, met him within 3 weeks, was engaged within 4 months, married within 9 months and is happy as can be.

On the other hand, I hear plenty of stories of people who gave up looking for their soul-mate and just as soon as they took their focus off meeting The One, bam! They literally ran into them around the corner.

I’ve experienced both. I once threw a Universal tantrum, demanded and happily manifested a partner within days. AND I have done it the other way too – intended to be in a relationship, journaled about it and then let it go, meeting someone special just weeks later!

These methods were quite different energetically, and yet, they both worked.

In the first instance, I got mad and stated my desire in no uncertain terms, giving off a ‘this is what I want and I bloody well get it asap’ vibe.

In the other, I was happy and peaceful and just trusted that I would get what I wanted without spending much time thinking about it.

(The common factors in both instances were clarity and determination)

So here’s my question to you:

Do you stay focused on your desire till it manifests, or have you found more success by intending it and letting your focus go elsewhere?

What has your experience been?

Please share your real life (or hearsay) stories and experiences so that others with the same question can benefit from your response.

Gosh, am I ever looking forward to reading about how you met and attracted your partner – as are the readers who emailed me. Thanks in advance for sharing!

ps: Even if you didn’t “manifest” your partner consciously, I’d love to know how you met. It’s the season for love and thanks so share the love with the rest of us here :D

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