When Life Throws you a (few) Curve Ball(s) – How to Stay on Top?

June 26, 2009 by Tia · 12 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction 

Life Throws You a Curve BallWow, it’s been a crazy week all around. With Summer Solstice ending on June 24th, the big changes and healings promised have started to show up. It’s not even the matter of 2 celeb deaths (Michael Jackson & Farrah Fawcett) in one day, it’s not even the unrest in Iran, it’s not even the high # of angry drivers and car wrecks or the ends of many relationships, friendships, careers and lives.

It’s all of them and then some. I don’t know about you but to me it seems to go further. There’s a strange sort of vibe going around, a universal awakening of sorts and I can see it in many, many people’s lives all over the world. All at once it would seem!

Mostly, I see us looking through the chaos, and finding a clarity and strength that wasn’t as visible before. It’s a time for reflection, a time for endings, a time for patience and trust and the start of exciting, brand new beginnings. Oh and growth – spiritual, emotional, mental. Stretchy, scary and exhilerating!

I’m guessing many of you will have started seeing some signs of manifestations by now.

And I’d be willing to bet my last dollar (uh oh should I be putting this out there?) that for some of you, they may not look like what you thought, eg: you wanted to manifest a beautiful relationship and the one you’re in ends, leaving you hurt and frustrated. Or you thought you’d found the perfect job for you and now you’re unhappier than before and can’t figure out why.

Here’s the kicker  - THIS is the manifestation! Your strong intention for the relationship or job of your dreams means that anyone or anything that’s not in alignment with it simply has to go whether you like it or not. Tack it down to how powerful your intention was (thanks for that, Kim)

And due to Summer Solstice energy, this can often happen in sudden, unexpected ways so don’t be surprised if you find yourself acting in ways you normally wouldn’t, because this. is. good. news.

Good news you ask? How so? Simply because it’s your higher consciousness giving you the extra push needed to get to the other side. The push which you may have resisted to avoid feeling loss, fear and pain if left to your own devices.

How lucky for you that your superconscious mind knows what you want and will use its power to get you there as long as you have been clear about your true desires :)  It’s great to have divine help but I applaud your courage to trust the process, feel the fear and follow your path inspite of it. You rock!

Some of you have asked, how do you stay with the process and keep trusting when everything seems to be falling apart? Rest assured, time takes time but in the meanwhile, what you’ll find very helpful during this time of renewal and re-emergence is to:

  • make peace with what is, you don’t have to like it but do acknowledge it
  • feel, feel, feel through your emotions, don’t hold back
  • talk/write about the things you have with appreciation
  • continue to be grateful for all that is in your vibrational escrow and ready to appear in your physical world
  • stay focused on what you want, affirm it daily
  • keep blame and guilt to a minimum, not serving you!
  • drink lots of water to hydrate & flush out toxic energies
  • reach for a better feeling place one thought at a time
  • practice extreme self love, forgiveness and gentleness towards yourself and others
  • reach out for support – friends, books, meditation, blogs like this etc
  • detach from the outcome and the process of wanting the manifestation to happen in a certain way – you have NO idea how wonderfully it is being orchestrated behing the scenes and by being attached to it happening your way, you’ll just block this universal magique (gosh how I love that word, can you tell!)

In fact, as Coach Sara Exley shared brilliantly, Attachment is giving your power away. It’s making something else responsible for your level of trust, relaxation, joy. Attachment is the energy that says “When I receive it, I’ll relax.” The energy of Allowing says, “Now that I’m relaxed, I’m receiving it!”

The reason attachment doesn’t feel so great is because the “Source” part of you knows that YOU are the power that makes the outcome, not the other way around. It’s not that attachment is “bad” or “wrong.” It’s just that the higher part of us knows that Allowing feels so much better.

How eye-opening and exciting is THAT!? Do remember, any time you blame anyone or anything for what is happening in your life, you are giving away all your power and peace of mind. If there is a hell on Earth, living as a victim with feelings of anger and blame defines it. If there is a heaven on Earth, living powerfully and lovingly as creator of our own lives defines it (Susan Jeffers).

Hang on, there’s more. It’s REALLY important to listen and watch carefully for those little nudges and intuitive spurts that seem to come from nowhere.

Take Inspired Action, follow those impulses and look for signs that affirm you’re on the right path. I get about 5-10 signs a day (up from 1-2 a week) and it’s re-assuring and gives me faith that all is indeed more than well.

At this very moment open yourself up to immense possibilities and trust that the immediate picture may be contributing to your larger journey in more ways than you can currently imagine. Trust that everything is happening in your best interest. AND IT IS!! Always.

Your manifestations are closer than you think. Rejoice in the juiciness of that delicious statement.

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What’s been your experience over the past week? Have you seen signs of land? Or the rug being pulled away from under your feet? I’ve had them so I’d love to hear from you! Any other thoughts or experiences you’d like to talk about? Thanks in advance for sharing!

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Where Do You Draw The Line between Ego and Self?

June 19, 2009 by Tia · 21 Comments
Filed under: Inspired Action, Life, Passion, life coaching 

Authenticity. Authenticity.Authentic Happy Joy

Also known as showing up fully.

This past month I’ve been living from ego rather than service. I let my authentic self be tarnished by feelings of competitiveness, living at 50% of myself, ignoring my values and not being fully present, real or honest with myself and others about my feelings and thoughts.

Nothing “bad” mind you – just restrictions everywhere I looked around. Life in this state is far from pure, joyous and happy. It can still be good but good isn’t enough for me anymore.

Who else feels they are sick of not expressing themselves fully?
Who else wants to shed their scales & emerge as they are?
Who else would like to live courageously & with integrity?

I for one am DONE with living an unauthentic life. With holding myself back for fear that I’ll be alone if no one wants to walk this path with me. With conforming and trying to look good (although those of you who know me may be giggling at the thought of me being a conformist hehe).

Since the last 2 days a lot has been stirring up for me (I learnt from Lynn Koiner and Sophie Lhoste that I’m not alone in this – apparently this summer solstice is a powerful time for changes and divine happenings – woohoo!) and I’m taking gulpy, brave steps to bring myself back from the edge of an ego-driven life, back to service, back to self.

Take the coaching competition I was entered in for instance. It all started as fun and games, asking people to vote for me, getting the word out about my blog, loving the traffic to my website, the supportive comments (esp the one from my mom – that rocked, thanks mum!) ·

Somewhere along the way though, I realised some uncoachlike behaviour was going on and allowed myself to be upset by the tricks other people were using to get to # 1. Everytime I saw people being voted down I would vote them up. And I’d wonder what I was doing in such a contest. Can you guess what happened next? Yep!

I wanted to play them at their own game. Survival of the best-est. And I didn’t like this feeling. That’s not me.

So yeah, it got to the point where I had to stop and question myself …. Why do I need someone to tell me my blog is the best? Would winning this contest make more people like me or make me special in some way? WHO gets to decide I’m the best (or not)? I’ve never liked competitions and in my LOA world, co-operation is a better feel-good place to be in over competition.

To compete fairly and test skills against another is beautiful, like athletes in their finest form. Because it brings the best out in others, rather than the worst. To bring others down while you go up? Not sooooooo much!

It started to not feel good anymore. And you who read this blog know this about me – I always follow my feel-good! If it’s not fun, I’m not doing it. I slacked in following my intuition. Ohh Bugggerr…

It’s scary and empowering to go out on a limb and saying what you need to, without fear of consequences. It’s easy for monkeys but to be a human hanging on the top of a branch, swinging wildly and suddenly letting go….!?  Bump, rumble and roll. Ouch. That hurt. Pain sucks. Yet, letting go can teach you to look for where the growth and learning is.

To be authentic, I first had to acknowledge what I’ve not been wanting to, face my frailties and imperfections, embrace them, forgive them, love them and finally, share them with others.

So my friends, In all my ego driven glory, here I stand unveiled. And as I ask myself these questions, I ask you too:

Who do you think you are to live half a life?
One that’s not passionate, fulfilling, authentic and happy?
Where do you get off blaming other people?
What are you not taking responsibility for?
What is the learning from this?
What do you really, really want?
The glory or the peace? True happiness or ego-driven accolades?

Feel free to ask me “who are you to get me to stand up and take charge of my own life”!? I am no-one. And I am everyone. You get to choose if you want to or not.

With this in mind, I decided that what felt good and authentic was to remove myself from this contest. My intuition says this is the right thing to do and this is the month I start trusting it. The little voice in my head saying “but you could win this and be more popular” can just go take a hike. Be sure to take a camel along, it’s a long trip where you’re going!

THANK YOU to all of you who voted me to # 1 – I’ve saved all your comments :) I am still glad I entered this contest for I know even more now that my worth does not depend on what someone says or thinks about me.

It depends on what I believe to be true. It’s reminded me AGAIN that real happiness and peace come from being true to oneself, and true to others. It showed me how many amazing friends and loyal readers I have. It re-inforced the power of synergy (where my friends and I voted for each other as opposed to taking each other down).

It helped me be kind and loving to myself and accept my imperfections. And my desire for you is to do the same for yourself.

I want you to live your best life ever. I want you to unleash your awesomeness on the world, warts and all.

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You can start by sharing your thoughts and feelings about how you want to show up MORE in your life in the comments section. I am here to listen, encourage and love you AS YOU ARE. You rock my friend :)

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