What Do You Want To Be Known For?

March 4, 2010 by Tia · 3 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction, Passion, Spirituality, happiness, love 

“What is it that you want to be ‘known’ for?

What idea do you want to represent?

The next 24 hours bring insights, signs and sudden revelation!”

Kim Falconer asked this question yesterday.

I let it sit with me.

At first my mind ran through all the things my social self wants to be known for, things like:

  • Making a big difference in this world
  • Inspiring thousands of people to live their best lives ever
  • Making the most of my life & opportunities
  • Being a successful coach
  • Helping tons of people get clarity in their lives
  • And so on

I let it sit some more.

It was about 10 hours later, that by pure synchronicity, Carol posted this Abe video on Living With Passion on the Good Vibe U forum.



And as I was watching it, it suddenly struck me.

JOY!

Yes, I want to accomplish a lot and make my time here on Earth “worthwhile”.

Yes, I want to inspire people to follow their dreams.

Yes, I want all this and much, much more and still do.

But above all, I want most of all to Further Joy!

To be known for being  a JoyGiver, JoySpreader, JoyMonger & ALL things JOY.

It was so ridiculously simple that I had to catch my breath.

Could it be THIS simple? THIS easy!?

As I sat there wondering, I realised my essential self, the part of me that wants to give and share without wanting anything in return was speaking to me loud and clear.

The part of me that knows living my purpose is more about Being than about Doing.

Have you asked yourself questions like:

  • What’s my purpose, my mission in life?
  • Why am I here?
  • What am I meant to do with my life?
  • How can I best use my talents to help people?
  • How can I be happy?
  • What fulfills me?

Yeah, me too. In a quest to answer these questions I read a lot.

From Wayne Dyer to Steve Pavlina to Don Miguel Ruiz to Lynn Grabhorn to Eckart Tolle to Abraham-Hicks, you name it, I’ve read their books.

I also discovered coaching, got myself a coach, attended coach training, became a coach, kept attending workshops (and still do), listened to hundreds of audios and watched countless videos.

With each passing month, I had a better idea of what I wanted to accomplish with my time here.

And yet, it felt like I was trying too hard.

I’d decide what I want and then change my mind as though the “thing” I’d settled on – like inspiring thousands of people to live their best lives ever – somehow seemed hollow and vacuous.

What the heck does that mean anyways? Inspire people to live into their potential?

And who was *I* to take on this mission? Something about it just didn’t sit right. Could my life purpose really be about other people instead of about me?

Got me thinking about Mother Teresa – what was hers? Was it to provide support and help the poor? Or was it to love? Seems to me that everything she did came from Love. She was BEING love, not just giving love.

Too often we make ours about “doing something for others”.

When you realise it’s about being who you were meant to be, the doing comes naturally.

It’s not important to know what to do before you know what or who to be.

So last night when it came to me with intense clarity that I needed to let the answer come to me rather than go chasing to it, it sure surprised me when it did.

Cos joy is something I take for granted, not something I thought could actually be my purpose.

I’d thought my purpose was something bigger…. grander….. on a larger scale that would make me feel like I’d REALLY made a difference.

A little thing like Joy? Really?

Yes, really.

I haven’t stopped smiling since this revelation. I’m not sure how exactly I’ll do this but I have an idea – to start with, I’m bringing joy into what I do, how I engage with people, my thoughts, my actions. I already practice this, and with this new awareness, it seems a lot more delicious.

Fancy my purpose being something I can live each day, every day!

Fancy it being something I’m already being and doing :)

(No co-incidences there, hey!)

Now, I’ve got a little exercise for you.

First, write down what comes to mind when I ask “what do you want to be known for”?
- Leave a comment & let me know.

Second, take this question with you into your day.
- Let it sit with you as you go about your routine.
- Every now and then ask yourself the question again and write down what comes to mind.
- Don’t try to force it, or write what you think you should write.
- Let it flow.
- At the end of the day, revisit your list and see what pops out at you.

I have a feeling whatever you think it is right now, it’s probably simpler and more basic than that :) It’s something you are ALREADY being and doing, and just haven’t fully realised yet. Or maybe you have? Can’t wait to hear it!

What is your soul calling you to be or do?

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I’d love to hear if the answer changed or remained the same after a while. Enjoy the process and thanks for sharing your thoughts, as always, you inspire me!

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A Matter of Survival or Creating Dependency?

February 25, 2010 by Tia · 20 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Intention, Life, Passion, courage, love 

Tony Robbins shared a quote on his facebook page today:

“You don’t marry someone you can live with – you marry the person who you cannot live without.” Anonymous.

And then he added “I’m grateful I found my Wife Sage!”

As a person who believes in the power of words and consciously creating reality, I was taken aback. A bit stunned, actually.

Yes, I fully get the being grateful part.

But this part here, this one where it says “marry the person you cannot live without”?

WOW. Really?

There are about 50 “likes” and a bunch of comments, almost all of them saying “this is so true”!

Seriously!? Did anyone actually stop and think about the words for a second?

(btw, this quote is anonymous and the post is NOT about Tony Robbins, it’s about looking closely at the language we use)

So I posted:

Eh .. not true. I LOVE the sentiment behind it but the fact is, you CAN live without that person – you just choose not to live without them. Which is what makes it so beautiful :)

Then someone said:

When you love someone so much that a single moment without them in your life is not an option then i guess it is not a matter of choice.…..it is about your survival as they are the air that you breathe (edited out)……you feel complete in the circle of life gifted by the Higher Being!

So I said:

Saying that you can’t survive without someone’s love… that’s the only part of what you said that I question. Cos there is always a choice. So I see this as a choice, to think and believe what we do individually. The rest? Simply beautiful, magical, amazing – you are blessed indeed to have such love!

And they said:

Out of experience , i can state that the whole world seems to halt without that one person, may be true love tends to have such an impact!!!!!  (edited out) …i know what Tony means and the way he feels about Sage !

Which is when I decided to not say anything anymore.

Cos clearly this could go forever. I’m not negating the depth of anyone’s feelings, heck I’ve BEEN there, felt like that, esp in my teens and 20’s. Ok, even as recently as a couple of years ago.

And while it may seem that the world will come to a stop without this person, I can genuinely, with all the mended pieces of my broken and healed heart, say, not true.

Not true, not true, not true!

I am living proof! As are you, I’m sure. And all of us.

To say your survival depends on the presence of someone in your life, sounds less like love and more like need to me. We each CHOOSE what we believe.

Love by its very nature, nourishes, cherishes, gives life. You can ‘have’ love even without that special partner to spend the rest of your life with AND you can have it with them.

NB: (Unless you’re a baby – then you are 100% co-dependent and will not survive without a food provider – but you WILL survive without love. Maybe miserably and unhappily, but you will).

Till the day comes when you realise you ARE love.

Then, you’ll go beyond surviving, to thriving. Cliches notwithstanding.

Having experienced extremely co-dependent relationships where I really, truly felt like I couldn’t live without someone, I am now very conscious of the words I use.

Maybe that’s why I was goaded into writing this post (along with the fact it was Tony who passed it on.. being a master of words & NeuroLinguistic Programming, wonder if he thought about it at all?)

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What do YOU think? Am I over analyzing or would you have felt the same way? Why would someone choose to believe they don’t have a choice? I’ve got an idea but would love to hear YOUR insights, thanks for sharing!

ps: parts of the other person’s comments have been edited out for privacy reasons..

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Old Stories vs New Stories: How to Bridge the Gap?

January 7, 2010 by Tia · 14 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Visualisation, love 

Tell a new story in 2010Speaking of telling new stories in the new year, you know well that to let in a new story, you’ve got to stop holding onto the old one, right?

Let’s get clear about this:

To tell a new story, let go of the old one.

But sometimes it’s easier said than done.

You wonder if the old story really is old or just needs a fresh look at it. Maybe you’re not sure if you need a new story or just patience while the old one unfolds into the new one.

Of course, most times, you’re just ready for a new one!

Here’s the deal, kids.

You get what you really really want deep inside, not what you think or say you want.

If you say you want love, and keep holding onto an old lover in your mind,  if you say you want to be healthy and then eat unhealthy food and feel guilty about it, you’re letting the Universe know you’re not serious!

Sending out mixed, unclear signals is a waste of your time.

So what do you do?

Why, you ask with your actions, not merely your words!

When you’re really clear about what you want, you’ll start to notice what behaviours and actions are incongruent with your wants. Then you can start changing them or adopting new ones.

You know the drill by now..

  • Decide what you want
  • Get clear on it
  • State it in the present tense
  • ACT like you want it
  • Ask for it
  • Use manifesting techniques like affirming, afforming, playing make believe, scripting etc
  • Get into the energy and FEELING space of having what you want
  • Make space in your life for it
  • Be conscious of your actions making sure that they reflect your “new” reality.
  • Have patience!

Here’s a question (or two) I have for you:

Do you think it’s necessary to let go of old stories before you can REALLY embrace new ones?

Or do you find that it’s easier (or more effective) to state new stories instead of trying to let go of the old first?

Another alternative to changing stories I haven’t thought of?

Curious as to what works best for you. Thanks for sharing your perspectives!

ps: Have you picked a theme for January yet? Mine is Love and I am having SUCH a great time playing with it!

I find myself feeling SO vibrant and alive, which is what being in love with myself, someone else or the world REALLY makes me feel.

Wow, what a GREAT way to start the year!

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