Manifesting in the Matrix

July 18, 2010 by Tia · 5 Comments
Filed under: Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction 

No, not THAT one.

The Matrix is something I learned about yesterday at Tut.com’s Playing the Matrix event in Vancouver.

Now, if you’ve been around this blog a while or we’re connected on twitter / elsewhere on social media, you KNOW how obsessed I am with my daily TUT notes from the Universe.

They are personally written for me, just me, not the thousands of people they go out to every day, who just get it incidentally. You see, me & Mike, we’ve got a deal.

(For those who don’t know what I’m talking about – just sign up now for Notes from the Universe & thank me later).

I have a feeling the Matrix just changed my manifesting forever.

This was a workshop quite unlike most others – it had to be, it’s TUT! – and even though most of the concepts were already known to me, something about the way Mike presented them flipped a switch.

Here it is then, in the simplest way I can explain.

The Matrix goes from left to right. On the left of the manifestation scale, the # 1 thing we all want, is:

HAPPINESS

Right after happiness come other things like peace, prosperity, contentment, freedom, passion, fun, laughter etc, which take high precedence in our lives.

These are the core inner desires behind all our outer desires.

For example, travel and see the world: outer desire.

How you will feel when you do that, in my case : excited to explore new cultures, be connected, appreciate beauty, THOSE are the real desires.

Mike also included 5 areas of our lives on the left (or middle) of the matrix, including livelihood, relationships and abundance.

These are the desires where our focus needs to be if we TRULY want to manifest easily, quickly & amazingly!

  • Stay open to the form, the how’s, the who’s, the where’s, the what’s.
  • Know how you want to feel & find ways to feel like that now.

But what do we do instead?

We, me, most of us get drawn into the right side of the Matrix, into varying degrees of wants and desires, ranging from career, love, money, friends, travel to specific jobs, employers, people and things.

When you’re focused on the stuff on the right, esp the furthest on the Matrix (THIS girl, THAT job, exactly $10,000 from lotto), you’re limiting yourself, limiting the Universe and limiting all opportunities that are trying to come your way.

Say you really want a relationship and you’re just hell bent on having Jimmy as your man, Jimmy who works in the same office as you and doesn’t know you exist, or Jimmy who doesn’t feel the same way about you.

Note: I don’t know any Jimmy’s!

By focusing on a specific person (come on, who hasn’t done this one time or the other in their lives ;) ), you’re saying you don’t want anyone else cos your limited life experience can’t even begin to imagine that someone wayyyy more perfect for you, who is everything you want and don’t even KNOW you want, is coming your way.

The more you place limits, timelines and caveats on your wishes, the harder you’re making it to manifest & closer you are to disappointment. Especially if you’re attached to them.

Yeah I know what you’re thinking now – but what about vision boards, goals, being specific about numbers, dates etc?

Great point!

There’s HUGE power in setting dates as in “millionaire by 2011″ as long as  you’re not attached to it happening or even how it happens!

If you HAVE to be attached, be attached to the left side of the matrix and DETACH from the right.

State exactly what you want, use specifics to get into the feeling place of what you want, and let events unfold. This isn’t to say don’t take any action at all, unless that’s what feels right and good.

If you want to do this effortlessly instead of pushing boulders up a mountain, be smart about it! Use leverage, take tiny actions. To quote a TUTism,

You don’t take “baby steps” for the distance they cover, but to put yourself within reach of life’s magic.

Just like you don’t hoist your sails to move the boat, but to put yourself within reach of the wind.

Hoist, baby, hoist, baby, 1, 2, 3, 4 -

The Universe

ps: Just like you don’t sing in the car to be heard… Why do you do that?

How empowering & freeing is that!?

To know that you don’t have to do it alone, that taking steps aren’t about doing it all but getting you to the tipping point?

And that if you just keep showing up, day after day, one day things will change so fast it will seem like magic and you’ll wonder what just happened!

Believe this now – people, things and events are conspiring in your favour.

Trust that there is a LOT going on behind the scenes that you don’t know about, and don’t need to know about.

All you have to do is decide what you want in general terms, get specific about your desires if that feels good, and keep doing one little things a day towards your dreams. Then, in no uncertain terms, it.will.happen.

Manifest in the Matrix!

General to Specific. Left to Right.

Check out Mike Dooley’s Matrix tour coming to a city near you – the stories he shared about his life & adventures are totally inspiring and FUN and this event is just the coolest.

Over to you! I know many of us have manifested very specific things & I’m thinking we probably gave up attachment temporarily to allow that to happen.

What do you think? Have you had any experiences to the contrary? What are your easiest manifestations and what’s really been hard for you so far? Look forward to your thoughts & comments.

ps: Like the post? Go ahead & hit the “like” button or share it, thanks so much! x

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How To Get Out Of a Funk INSTANTLY!

June 12, 2010 by Tia · 19 Comments
Filed under: Fun, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, happiness, love 

I spend a lot of time “hanging out” at the Good Vibe University, my fave Law of Attraction & Conscious Creation resource, where a fellow GVUer just started the coolest thread ever.

It’s such a happy, joy inducing thread that I got inspired to start one here.

Behold, the secret weapon! A quick, fast, easy, simple and super fun way to get out of a funk / make a bad day turn awesome:

Take a trip down memory lane.

(Thank you Robert!)

I’ll start us off with a list of some of my favourite memories, feel free to use them as a feel-good tool anytime you want but even better, add yours to the list after you’re done reading!

  • Lying on the lawn with my mom, dad and brother after dinner, counting stars and pointing out constellations – I always looked for the Big Dipper and North Star
  • My favourite Uncle surprising us with visits on his military breaks. Oh HOW my brother and I would squeal and scream and jump all over him when we came home from school and found out he was there!
  • Hiding behind curtains watching my parents dance at parties
  • Playing Monopoly surrounded by a ton of 5 star Cadbury chocolates that my Uncle would bring us. There was never a game of Monopoly played with more enthusiasm or more chocolates (I only have 4 fillings, thank you very much!)
  • Spending 2 months every summer with my cousins at Grandpa’s home in the paternal village
  • Dad flying past said house in ‘his’ helicopter, hovering above to drop off chocolates and goodies that would float down in little kerchief sized parachutes which we’d run about catching
  • Always screaming “PAPA! PAPA!” EVERY time my brother & I saw a helicopter .. LOL!!
  • Riding in a rickshaw to go see an Indian movie titled “I am a Disco Dancer” and er… disco dancing like him :D
  • Hosting my 1st (and probably last) “Midnight Feast” brought on by too many Enid Blyton books (age 11)
  • Playing dress ups

  • Sleepovers with my best friends, 4 of us piled up on top of each other talking through the night about crushes & first loves
  • My first Jam Session (co-ed dance evening) at the DSOI (Defence Services Officers Club)
  • Waking up the day (or was it midnight?) of my 20th birthday to find a bucket FULL of roses waiting outside my front door from my boyfriend at the time
    • Creating a story out of thin air that had my friend Mandira totally fooled for a WEEK and the 4 of us laughing as we finally told her the truth
    • Christmas eve at my friend Nina’s in the 90’s where I’d put up decorations and be rewarded by her mum’s yummiest, most-amazing-Fudge-in-the-world
    • That one time at my Uncle’s playing Pictionary where he tried to cheat but collapsed with laughter instead and his daughter caught on – so many laughs & giggles that night :)
    • Singing very loudly in cars with my best friends, totally off key and having the best time :)
    • The time Amanda, Sally and I sang “Drops of Jupiter” and waited for the “even when you’re wrong” part so we could yell loudly at each other!
    • Winning a hula hoop competition at Amanda’s Slip n Slide party, the 1st time I ever hula hooped (age 27)
    • Amanda’s Parties!! The BEST parties ever, ever, ever that made my 2 years in the US so fun!

    • Swing dancing with my friend Matt who was the bestest, awesomest swing dancer and effortlessly swung me around
    • Oh also my friend Rob, that time he dipped me on the floor and said I won’t drop you. And he didn’t.
    • So many Hotlanta nights of dancing till 3am, going home exhausted, tired and happy
    • Camping at Tugaloo with my Atlanta friends and late night swims in the lake ;)
    • St Patrick’s day 2002 in Savannah, Georgia. 200 of us took 4 buses out from Atlanta to Savannah and by the time we got there at noon, we were all in a state of Irish inebriation. Good times!
    • My birthday in 2001 when my friends hosted a wonderful party for me and made me wear a crown that slipped & cut my nose
    • Watching Kenny Rogers at Chastain Park, Atlanta with my friend John and crying tears of happiness cos Kenny reminded me of my dad who I missed and was the source of my love of country music
    • Finding out my New Zealand work visa had been granted and I was on my way to Queenstown, NZ

    • Realising that a guy I was crazy about liked me back and was about to ask me out – oh that moment is etched forever
    • Walking up Queenstown Hill with my ex and him singing the silliest song ever that went like “Rin tin tin tin tin HEY!” over and over and over again with accompanying dance movements, till I was laughing so hard I was in tears
    • Getting a red rose every month on the anniversary of our 1st date from the same ex :)
    • In Feb this year, waking up at 6am to go see Arnold Scharznegger light the Olympic flame and getting out of breath from running around from spot to spot and STILL missing him totally
    • Weaving through hundreds of people with my friend Jakob to get pictures of the Olympic Flame
    • The Olympic nights on Granville Street, the euphoria and excitement in the air
    • Watching Canada win Olympic Hockey Gold at the Cambie, woohoo!
    • Getting laid off from my “last job ever” in Vancouver  in 2008 and realising that this was the start of a fantastic new future, smiling and telling the firing manager that as she was fighting off tears
    • Discovering coaching and the exciting world of Entrepreneurship, the moment I knew that I would never again work for the Establishment

    Wow, wow, wow I could go on all day. Going through my memories made me aware of just how great a life I’ve had and continue to have, full of many amazing times, friends, events.

    The next time you feel like the world is out to get you or the sky is going to fall on your head and everything just sucks, try this.

    Start writing down a list of your favourite memories.  I’ll just bet you won’t be able to stop once you get started. Total, INSTANT Vibe Shifter! I’m only stopping so you don’t get tired of reading, ha!

    Ok, over to you now – what are some of your favourite memories?

    Share them here and add to the good vibes spilling all over this post :D

    I can’t WAIT to hear from you!!


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    Lessons from the Blackhawks Stanley Cup Win

    June 9, 2010 by Tia · 7 Comments
    Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Passion, courage 

    Source: Reuters.com: NHL Stanley Cup 2010 Winners - Chicago Blackhawks

    I just finished watching the Chicago Blackhawks win the Stanley Cup Finals.

    For those of you who aren’t hockey crazed (or Canadian), the Stanley Cup is the Holy Grail of Hockey, the National Hockey League’s most salivated after prize in the Hockey world. Ever. Not counting the Olympics.

    Ok, WHAT am I doing talking about Hockey on this blog?

    Bear with me just a minute.

    (Apart from the fact that 5 of the team players from the Hawks are British Columbia boys and more than half the team is Canadian) – It’s something I heard Rocky Wirtz, the owner of the team, say.

    When asked whether he knew that the Hawks were going to win or how he knew that, he said something like:

    “If we had set the bar low, we would have met it. So we set the bar high. And we met it.“

    (Creative liberties may have been taken with the wordage.)

    That’s 49 years of a winless drought, leading to a spectacular, hard fought win. Summed up in these 2 sentences.

    It reminded me of a post where fellow coach Jeannette talked about Sean McHugh being laid off by the Detroit Lions & being picked up by the Pittsburgh Steelers.

    He said there was an expectation when you become a Pittsburgh Steeler that you’re going to win. Something he hadn’t felt in his old team.

    Which was evident in how those two teams became the worst and the best in the Football World Cup NFL series in 2009.

    Ever heard the saying “reach for the moon, for if you do you might reach the stars”? You can see where I’m going with this, right?

    You see, you get what you expect.

    When you set an intention to be the best, to go for Gold, to win, you are setting yourself up for success.

    People often rise (or fall) to the expectations we have of them.

    If you’re a parent who tells your child he’ll never be good at math just like his mama or hasn’t a creative bone in her body, guess what’s going to happen?

    On the flip side, if you look for the best in someone, you’re going to find the best in them.

    How many times have you looked at your partner / boss / friend / employee and wished there was something they’d say or do differently? And the more you focused on what you didn’t like about them, the more they seemed to perpetrate that action.

    Till the day you decide to stop noticing what you don’t like and start paying attention to what you Do like. And lo, presto! It’s reflected in their behaviour, almost overnight, af if by magic?

    Now, let’s turn this inwards to YOU.

    What do you expect to have happen in your life? What about on a daily basis?

    I’m not talking about being the best or winning or being hard on yourself with “unrealistic” expectations to be perfect.

    This goes beyond “just winning” (although I’m sure the Blackhawks feel differently about that and I sure was over the moon when Canada won Olympic Hockey Gold in February this year!).

    This is about awareness.

    About setting intentions.

    About believing in yourself.

    In your worth, your ability, your deserving-ness to live the life you want..

    Being daring enough to think big, not letting the yeah, buts & fears stop you.

    If you don’t dream big, what chance do you ever have of making those dreams come true? If you want a no holds barred life and you’re busy focused on the ways in which you’re tied down, how do you expect to fly?

    A good test to see whether you’ve been dreaming powerfully is to look at your life right now.

    • What about it do you love?
    • What do you wish was different?
    • What do you believe you can have?
    • Is there a limit ie, have you got a set point where you stop dreaming?
    • What have you done about it?

    If you want more than you’ve allowed yourself to dream or have, whose permission are you waiting to get? You need no one to tell you you can have it all. No one but you.

    If you’ve allowed other people to tell you what you can or cannot achieve, if you’ve been playing small, squishing your dreams and resigning yourself to never having everything that you want, I want you to stop right now!

    STOP it, stop it, stop it.

    Stop setting the bar so low. What makes an NHL or Olympic winning team so very different from you?

    Natural talent and physical prowess aside, none of these teams would have gotten to where they are if they didn’t DREAM big, intend & visualise their dreams coming true and take Inspired Action to make them happen.

    Action without Intention is a misguided missile.

    Start creating the life of freedom, happiness, abundance, love, travel, connection, joy and clarity that you want and deserve.

    Start by setting the bar high, to what that means for you.

    Not what someone else wants for you, but what YOU want for you. No one’s laughing, no one’s judging.

    Reach for the moon, the stars, the top of the trees, reach for what your heart truly desires!

    You have permission.

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    Blog Review & Rebranding Survey Results

    June 3, 2010 by Tia · 6 Comments
    Filed under: Business, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction, Marketing & Branding, life coaching 

    Whoa!

    Thank you so so so SO much, blog readers, ezine readers, twitter & FB friends and everyone who took the survey.

    I took screen shots at 32 responses (they’re still trickling in, a couple a day) to share with you.

    A bunch of you told me that you enjoyed filling out this Questionnaire. Boy, am I ever glad to hear that cos I wanted it to be fun, easy and fast for you. Looks like it worked, yay!

    If you haven’t had the chance to inject 30 seconds of fun into your day yet, no worries, head on over and play with the One Year Blog Review & Branding Survey & have your say too.

    Then come back & read the rest. Oh who am I kidding, you’re gonna read 1st ;) I know I would. Settle in & Enjoy! Then, tell me what you think.

    Q & A 1. What in your opinion is Coach T.I.A all about?

    • With a name like “T.I.A – Take Inspired Action” you all scored top of the class marks for saying “Take Inspired Action” - 85% of the responses. Did I make that too easy for you?
    • Law of Attraction and Personal Development scored as expected.
    • I snuck in Being Intentional & Making Choices (36%) after half the responses had already come in, so that’s a good show of hands.
    • Tips on Happiness and Fun at 72% - that surprised me! Apart from the Top Tips for Happiness manifesto I give away when you sign up for the Ezine, I hadn’t paid much attention to it so it’s very interesting.

    Q & A 2. What would you like to see more of on the blog?

    You all said you liked having a few options to choose from and as a result, came up with some fab answers.

    • Tops on the list with 70%, is How to Take Inspired Action
    • Law of Attraction at 50% wasn’t a surprise but the high 56 % of you for whom Life Balance is an issue is an eye opener. Many of you feel pressured to do it all & have it all.
    • Living Intentionally 45% - again, snuck this in half way thru the survey (by now you’ve guessed this is a recurring theme).
    • Snuck in Social Media Tips & Strategies midway & got many comments asking for more. I may keep that for the other site I’m launching specifically on Intentional (there’s that word again) Social Media.

    Q & A # 3: How does the Coach T.I.A blog make you feel?

    The Vibe question. Reading the answers makes ME feel Inspired, Happy and Energised! I put in the 1st two options after 70% of the responses had come in.

    You’re probably wondering what those comments say, huh? I’ll share a few:

    • Entertained!!! :-) (and proud to know you!)
    • The content is great and I love the enthusiasm that shines through…but (I mean “and” ;) there’s so much going on in the website (links, Twitter feeds, etc.) that I’m left feeling a bit overwhelmed.
    • Optimistic! I can do it – Yes I can! Connected – as in “I’m not the only one who…”
    • You’re saying in your blog what most others allow themselves to only think, secretly. The world needs more people being open & honest – SOCIETY needs more. Who we really are – what we think, feel & do, be that ideal or not so – is the greatest teacher of all.

    (Wow, some of this stuff you said was so MOVING! I’m just so touched by the comments. Thank you whoever said that!)

    Q & A 4: What would you like to see me do next?

    To the smart alecks who said “bake me cookies” and “sing karoake” I know who you are and I’m going to TP the tree outside your homes tonight. J/K I’m not going that far to do it, consider yourselves cyber-TPed!

    The rest of you want to see me squirm in front of the camera, like the time I asked a stranger to shoot me making a Gratitude Video for Alex Karis’s Hurricane of Gratitude.

    Or when I faced my fears by hugging strangers in front of the Vancouver Art Gallery last Thanksgiving.

    Or huffed and puffed my way through a very mixed up spiel on Journeys and Destinations and Mothers giving birth, in Queenstown last summer...

    Q & A 5: What’s your most pressing, current need / challenge?

    Ok so I did this one a little differently – out of the 30+ responses, I’m only posting the 1st 9 cos the others have names & personal details that I’m not going to share for privacy reasons. I’ll state for the record that the top 5 challenges you’re facing (if any), are:

    • Money
    • Time Management & Energy
    • Staying focused
    • Dealing with resistance and negative thinking
    • Social media

    Know this – you’re not alone! Nearly 80% of the responses included more than 2 of these areas. And I’ve had enough challenges and victories in each of these areas to provide you with tips, strategies and ideas.


    What’s next? Stay tuned for videos, interviews & more.

    Now that you’ve seen this survey, what do you think? Anything else jump out at you? What’s important to you that got left out?

    This is your chance – hit the comment button and fire away!

    • Any specific topics for these courses or ebooks?
    • Got someone who inspires you that you’d like me to interview?

    Many thanks for participating, reading and sharing. I owe you my left kidney.

    Ps: If you haven’t done the survey yet, head on over to the Review & Branding Survey and let me know your thoughts. What, you didn’t think I was going to forget, did I? Oh, I guarantee you’ll ENJOY filling this one out.

    Thanks again you’ll, this has been the funnest survey ever & I’m going to enjoy granting your wishes :D !

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    What Do You Want To Be Known For?

    March 4, 2010 by Tia · 6 Comments
    Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction, Passion, Spirituality, happiness, love 

    “What is it that you want to be ‘known’ for?

    What idea do you want to represent?

    The next 24 hours bring insights, signs and sudden revelation!”

    Kim Falconer asked this question yesterday.

    I let it sit with me.

    At first my mind ran through all the things my social self wants to be known for, things like:

    • Making a big difference in this world
    • Inspiring thousands of people to live their best lives ever
    • Making the most of my life & opportunities
    • Being a successful coach
    • Helping tons of people get clarity in their lives
    • And so on

    I let it sit some more.

    It was about 10 hours later, that by pure synchronicity, Carol posted this Abe video on Living With Passion on the Good Vibe U forum.



    And as I was watching it, it suddenly struck me.

    JOY!

    Yes, I want to accomplish a lot and make my time here on Earth “worthwhile”.

    Yes, I want to inspire people to follow their dreams.

    Yes, I want all this and much, much more and still do.

    But above all, I want most of all to Further Joy!

    To be known for being  a JoyGiver, JoySpreader, JoyMonger & ALL things JOY.

    It was so ridiculously simple that I had to catch my breath.

    Could it be THIS simple? THIS easy!?

    As I sat there wondering, I realised my essential self, the part of me that wants to give and share without wanting anything in return was speaking to me loud and clear.

    The part of me that knows living my purpose is more about Being than about Doing.

    Have you asked yourself questions like:

    • What’s my purpose, my mission in life?
    • Why am I here?
    • What am I meant to do with my life?
    • How can I best use my talents to help people?
    • How can I be happy?
    • What fulfills me?

    Yeah, me too. In a quest to answer these questions I read a lot.

    From Wayne Dyer to Steve Pavlina to Don Miguel Ruiz to Lynn Grabhorn to Eckart Tolle to Abraham-Hicks, you name it, I’ve read their books.

    I also discovered coaching, got myself a coach, attended coach training, became a coach, kept attending workshops (and still do), listened to hundreds of audios and watched countless videos.

    With each passing month, I had a better idea of what I wanted to accomplish with my time here.

    And yet, it felt like I was trying too hard.

    I’d decide what I want and then change my mind as though the “thing” I’d settled on – like inspiring thousands of people to live their best lives ever – somehow seemed hollow and vacuous.

    What the heck does that mean anyways? Inspire people to live into their potential?

    And who was *I* to take on this mission? Something about it just didn’t sit right. Could my life purpose really be about other people instead of about me?

    Got me thinking about Mother Teresa – what was hers? Was it to provide support and help the poor? Or was it to love? Seems to me that everything she did came from Love. She was BEING love, not just giving love.

    Too often we make ours about “doing something for others”.

    When you realise it’s about being who you were meant to be, the doing comes naturally.

    It’s not important to know what to do before you know what or who to be.

    So last night when it came to me with intense clarity that I needed to let the answer come to me rather than go chasing to it, it sure surprised me when it did.

    Cos joy is something I take for granted, not something I thought could actually be my purpose.

    I’d thought my purpose was something bigger…. grander….. on a larger scale that would make me feel like I’d REALLY made a difference.

    A little thing like Joy? Really?

    Yes, really.

    I haven’t stopped smiling since this revelation. I’m not sure how exactly I’ll do this but I have an idea – to start with, I’m bringing joy into what I do, how I engage with people, my thoughts, my actions. I already practice this, and with this new awareness, it seems a lot more delicious.

    Fancy my purpose being something I can live each day, every day!

    Fancy it being something I’m already being and doing :)

    (No co-incidences there, hey!)

    Now, I’ve got a little exercise for you.

    First, write down what comes to mind when I ask “what do you want to be known for”?
    - Leave a comment & let me know.

    Second, take this question with you into your day.
    - Let it sit with you as you go about your routine.
    - Every now and then ask yourself the question again and write down what comes to mind.
    - Don’t try to force it, or write what you think you should write.
    - Let it flow.
    - At the end of the day, revisit your list and see what pops out at you.

    I have a feeling whatever you think it is right now, it’s probably simpler and more basic than that :) It’s something you are ALREADY being and doing, and just haven’t fully realised yet. Or maybe you have? Can’t wait to hear it!

    What is your soul calling you to be or do?

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    I’d love to hear if the answer changed or remained the same after a while. Enjoy the process and thanks for sharing your thoughts, as always, you inspire me!

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