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What Do You Want To Be Known For?
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction, Passion, Spirituality, happiness, love
“What is it that you want to be ‘known’ for?
What idea do you want to represent?
The next 24 hours bring insights, signs and sudden revelation!”
Kim Falconer asked this question yesterday.
I let it sit with me.
At first my mind ran through all the things my social self wants to be known for, things like:
- Making a big difference in this world
- Inspiring thousands of people to live their best lives ever
- Making the most of my life & opportunities
- Being a successful coach
- Helping tons of people get clarity in their lives
- And so on
I let it sit some more.
It was about 10 hours later, that by pure synchronicity, Carol posted this Abe video on Living With Passion on the Good Vibe U forum.
And as I was watching it, it suddenly struck me.
JOY!
Yes, I want to accomplish a lot and make my time here on Earth “worthwhile”.
Yes, I want to inspire people to follow their dreams.
Yes, I want all this and much, much more and still do.
But above all, I want most of all to Further Joy!
To be known for being a JoyGiver, JoySpreader, JoyMonger & ALL things JOY.
It was so ridiculously simple that I had to catch my breath.
Could it be THIS simple? THIS easy!?
As I sat there wondering, I realised my essential self, the part of me that wants to give and share without wanting anything in return was speaking to me loud and clear.
The part of me that knows living my purpose is more about Being than about Doing.
Have you asked yourself questions like:
- What’s my purpose, my mission in life?
- Why am I here?
- What am I meant to do with my life?
- How can I best use my talents to help people?
- How can I be happy?
- What fulfills me?
Yeah, me too. In a quest to answer these questions I read a lot.
From Wayne Dyer to Steve Pavlina to Don Miguel Ruiz to Lynn Grabhorn to Eckart Tolle to Abraham-Hicks, you name it, I’ve read their books.
I also discovered coaching, got myself a coach, attended coach training, became a coach, kept attending workshops (and still do), listened to hundreds of audios and watched countless videos.
With each passing month, I had a better idea of what I wanted to accomplish with my time here.
And yet, it felt like I was trying too hard.
I’d decide what I want and then change my mind as though the “thing” I’d settled on – like inspiring thousands of people to live their best lives ever – somehow seemed hollow and vacuous.
What the heck does that mean anyways? Inspire people to live into their potential?
And who was *I* to take on this mission? Something about it just didn’t sit right. Could my life purpose really be about other people instead of about me?
Got me thinking about Mother Teresa – what was hers? Was it to provide support and help the poor? Or was it to love? Seems to me that everything she did came from Love. She was BEING love, not just giving love.
Too often we make ours about “doing something for others”.
When you realise it’s about being who you were meant to be, the doing comes naturally.
It’s not important to know what to do before you know what or who to be.
So last night when it came to me with intense clarity that I needed to let the answer come to me rather than go chasing to it, it sure surprised me when it did.
Cos joy is something I take for granted, not something I thought could actually be my purpose.
I’d thought my purpose was something bigger…. grander….. on a larger scale that would make me feel like I’d REALLY made a difference.
A little thing like Joy? Really?
Yes, really.
I haven’t stopped smiling since this revelation. I’m not sure how exactly I’ll do this but I have an idea – to start with, I’m bringing joy into what I do, how I engage with people, my thoughts, my actions. I already practice this, and with this new awareness, it seems a lot more delicious.
Fancy my purpose being something I can live each day, every day!
Fancy it being something I’m already being and doing 
(No co-incidences there, hey!)
Now, I’ve got a little exercise for you.
First, write down what comes to mind when I ask “what do you want to be known for”?
- Leave a comment & let me know.
Second, take this question with you into your day.
- Let it sit with you as you go about your routine.
- Every now and then ask yourself the question again and write down what comes to mind.
- Don’t try to force it, or write what you think you should write.
- Let it flow.
- At the end of the day, revisit your list and see what pops out at you.
I have a feeling whatever you think it is right now, it’s probably simpler and more basic than that It’s something you are ALREADY being and doing, and just haven’t fully realised yet. Or maybe you have? Can’t wait to hear it!
What is your soul calling you to be or do?
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I’d love to hear if the answer changed or remained the same after a while. Enjoy the process and thanks for sharing your thoughts, as always, you inspire me!
Digging the Now – Guest Post by Col
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Guest Posts, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction
Guest Post” Digging the Now, By Col McGunnigle, Life by Muse
“I’m pissed off at my dreamboard!”
I remember saying that two years ago. I had this gorgeous creation, with the exact guy and the exact house and the exact scenario all mapped out … and it was just *not* happening.
So I would walk by and give my dreamboard a little gesture along with the squinty-eyed look of death.
Not exactly the ideal place to create from! 
At the time I completely misunderstood Law of Attraction and in this moment, I’ve found a better way of moving into the emotion of what you desire.
Futurization
If you like, you can envision your future reality and make it big and bright and juicy and if that works for you, great! At times I can get into it and those times are powerful … but in other moments, there is this blaring knowledge that my present is something different and apart.
Pastification
Remembering a past event when you did live your dream grounds you in the knowledge and understanding that it is very clearly possible. This is moving in the right direction. But still there may be that separation, that knowledge that this is not my reality NOW.
What do you do when you find yourself wading in a sea of counterproductive feelings? What about the times when where you are at feels like quicksand?
What works for *me* is getting into the now.
Look at what you want things to be like. Then ask, “Ok, where can I find a tiny little piece of that right here and now?”
Embrace it. Take it in, appreciate it, hug it and kiss it and savor its presence. Expand on it and make it big and bright and beautiful.
You want to be prosperous? Look around you. Do you have a TV? Do you have food to eat? A roof over your head? A phone? We’re ahead of the game. Many people in this world do not have these things. We are truly truly prosperous.
Or at least embrace the concept that you have a tiny little taste of prosperity and look around you in every direction to find proof that this is so. Gather as much evidence as you can, big or small. Best to start small.
You are crafting a line to pull yourself out of the quicksand. So..
- You want to be in a loving relationship? Who loves you now? Your mother, your father, your best friend, your cat? Collect all of your proof and roll around in it. Be grateful that you are so very loved.
- You want your brother to be more positive? He has said ten unpleasant things … has he said one decent thing? Even just one? Thank him for the one, either directly or to yourself. Focus on what you appreciate.
What you focus on expands.
Build yourself a little story, a little bridge out of the muck. The beginnings can be so-so. They can be tiny proof, little itty bitty so-so proof. Give thanks for the tiny proof. Then be on the lookout for one step bigger proof. You will find it. I know you will.
Begin crafting your story and adding and adding until you find your way out.
This is the strongest form of visualization, at least for me … one which begins with a grounded seed of truth and is built up little by little until the vision is full and rich. Then you can grab hold of it.
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Colleen McGunnigle is a designer specializing in the art of attraction. She creates imagery which sings to the soul and radiates the spirit of your work, so your logo and web site attract people who are a perfect match to you.
Her design clients are life coaches and healers so she is in a continual state of discovery, inspired by the wealth of wonderful tools available at our fingertips to create a rich and delicious life.
At Life by Muse, she shares discoveries along her journey … insights, tips and tricks … with YOU!
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Man this girl GETS it. Thanks Col, for this brilliant post! Be sure to leave a comment for her and let her know if you enjoyed this post. I just had a lightbulb moment reading it so I’ll pop down below and write about it. WOW!
Old Stories vs New Stories: How to Bridge the Gap?
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Visualisation, love
Speaking of telling new stories in the new year, you know well that to let in a new story, you’ve got to stop holding onto the old one, right?
Let’s get clear about this:
To tell a new story, let go of the old one.
But sometimes it’s easier said than done.
You wonder if the old story really is old or just needs a fresh look at it. Maybe you’re not sure if you need a new story or just patience while the old one unfolds into the new one.
Of course, most times, you’re just ready for a new one!
Here’s the deal, kids.
You get what you really really want deep inside, not what you think or say you want.
If you say you want love, and keep holding onto an old lover in your mind, if you say you want to be healthy and then eat unhealthy food and feel guilty about it, you’re letting the Universe know you’re not serious!
Sending out mixed, unclear signals is a waste of your time.
So what do you do?
Why, you ask with your actions, not merely your words!
When you’re really clear about what you want, you’ll start to notice what behaviours and actions are incongruent with your wants. Then you can start changing them or adopting new ones.
You know the drill by now..
- Decide what you want
- Get clear on it
- State it in the present tense
- ACT like you want it
- Ask for it
- Use manifesting techniques like affirming, afforming, playing make believe, scripting etc
- Get into the energy and FEELING space of having what you want
- Make space in your life for it
- Be conscious of your actions making sure that they reflect your “new” reality.
- Have patience!
Here’s a question (or two) I have for you:
Do you think it’s necessary to let go of old stories before you can REALLY embrace new ones?
Or do you find that it’s easier (or more effective) to state new stories instead of trying to let go of the old first?
Another alternative to changing stories I haven’t thought of?
Curious as to what works best for you. Thanks for sharing your perspectives!
ps: Have you picked a theme for January yet? Mine is Love and I am having SUCH a great time playing with it!
I find myself feeling SO vibrant and alive, which is what being in love with myself, someone else or the world REALLY makes me feel.
Wow, what a GREAT way to start the year!
Attracting a mate – Give It Up or Wait It Out?
This is a topic that has been talked about in earlier posts (not necessarily related to relationships though) and was brought to my attention again recently.
You see, it’s that time of the year that I’ve been getting quite a few readers asking me about the best way to manifest a relationship (just something about the end of the year that makes us all evaluate our dreams and desires, maybe?).
I’ve heard stories of friends who decided what they wanted, made a list and focused on it till they met the love of their life.
Like my friend who intended to manifest her dream man, met him within 3 weeks, was engaged within 4 months, married within 9 months and is happy as can be.
On the other hand, I hear plenty of stories of people who gave up looking for their soul-mate and just as soon as they took their focus off meeting The One, bam! They literally ran into them around the corner.
I’ve experienced both. I once threw a Universal tantrum, demanded and happily manifested a partner within days. AND I have done it the other way too – intended to be in a relationship, journaled about it and then let it go, meeting someone special just weeks later!
These methods were quite different energetically, and yet, they both worked.
In the first instance, I got mad and stated my desire in no uncertain terms, giving off a ‘this is what I want and I bloody well get it asap’ vibe.
In the other, I was happy and peaceful and just trusted that I would get what I wanted without spending much time thinking about it.
(The common factors in both instances were clarity and determination)
So here’s my question to you:
Do you stay focused on your desire till it manifests, or have you found more success by intending it and letting your focus go elsewhere?
What has your experience been?
Please share your real life (or hearsay) stories and experiences so that others with the same question can benefit from your response.
Gosh, am I ever looking forward to reading about how you met and attracted your partner – as are the readers who emailed me. Thanks in advance for sharing!
ps: Even if you didn’t “manifest” your partner consciously, I’d love to know how you met. It’s the season for love and thanks so share the love with the rest of us here 
Emergency Manifesting Technique – for When It’s THIS Close & You’re Losing Patience!
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction
Words have a lot of power. You know that.
Feelings, even more so.
Combine the two with a healthy mix of goodness and you’ve got a recipe for turning your dreams into reality.
You decide what you want, then you act as if, intend, visualise, journal, write scripts for your new reality, align with it etc.
It’s close, so close and you’re feeling really great about it. You just KNOW it’s happening right now and you’re enjoying the ride, practicing infinite patience.
Then, you wake up one morning and ask “Where is it? Why hasn’t it happened yet? Hmm.. that house better sell soon…. why isn’t my soulmate here yet…. what if I lose this job… why aren’t my perfect clients here yet…”
One little thought.
That’s all it was. You quickly try to recover and go back to believing, but a little seed has been planted.
Shortly after, it happens again. Now you’re starting to get upset and before you know it, you’re sinking fast into “it’s never gonna happen, might as well give up but please, please Universe let it happen, I know it will happen, but please can you make it happen now, I’m tired of waiting”!
You’ve skidded out of alignment with your desire by letting fear creep in.
That’s how it goes. If you haven’t gotten too out of alignment, you quickly steer back into feeling and acting as if what you want has already happened. You’re back on track!
Sometimes all it takes is a little tweak to let go of any resistance that may be blocking your manifestations.
When you sense an attachment or sabotage coming up, you can change it around by feeling through the fear, changing your words, doing something that makes you feel good and upping your vibe.
And at other times, it’s getting into that vibe that trips you up. That’s when you start wondering how to re-create it, how to get back into it, what techniques to use etc.
Recently, I’ve been manifesting a trip to New Zealand.
I did all the ‘right’ things – set my intention, acted as if (sorting clothes to take along, cancelling cable, writing rent check in advance etc), declined party invites, bought my ticket, applied for a visitor visa.
All was good till I realised I was cutting it fine.
A little panic set in wondering if I’d get my passport back in time. As that thought set in, delays started happening. My thoughts spiraled down until I was gripped with fear that I’d have to cancel my trip.
With less than 10 days to go till my flight left, I knew I had to do something, and fast if I wanted to be on it!
So I put my emergency plan into action (which I came up with right after I decided I needed one!).
- First, I sat down and asked “what do I really want”, no really, really want. I want the trip to happen, yes, but more than that, I want peace. Whether I go or not.
So I think peaceful thoughts, tweet and write down “I invite peace”, feel it in my body, listen to meditation music for an hour, and ask the Universe for help.
Within minutes, I am directed to a blog post about peace, someone tags me in a gratitude video about peace, and I find a Byron Katie video on ending suffering and becoming peaceful. Nicely played, Universe!
I do The Work to stop out of control thoughts. Ooooooh, this feels good!
- With spirits lifted, I look around for the next Inspired Action step.
Which leads to me writing an email to myself saying “Dear Tia, Your visa has been approved and will be with you by Friday” (this step is all about doing whatever you feel drawn to do).
- This makes me smile. Score! Feeling better already. What shall I do next?
A walk, you say? Ok. Straight to the bookstore to buy a few books and on the way home, I send love to the world around me, practically skipping for joy in the rain.
- I send love and gratitude to the visa officers.
Pure, unconditional thanks and appreciation for all the work they are doing, for their well being. Different from “thank you for giving me my visa”. I ask for nothing. This makes me feel so blissful, I could float in the sky like Balloon Boy!
I get home, turn on my computer and find an email saying “Hello Tia, I am pleased to let you know that your visa has been approved and we have mailed it to you today. You should receive it in the mail by Friday”.
I smile. I’m not jumping out of my chair as I thought I would cos I am already where I want to be – in the land of peace and joy. The turnaround in my feelings and this event has happened in the space of 2 hours!
With a thanks to the Universe and blurry eyes, I sense the power of my new EMT in ceasing suffering, turning any situation around and changing my vibe.
Many of us are VERY good at feeling now as we would feel then and are excellent manifestors. Still, there are times when doubt or fear creep in and nothing seems to work.
The next time you get caught up in the story and can’t get to your “feel good”, pre-pave your way into that feeling by focusing on what you need right in this moment.
Which = Peace or something like that. Watch how your feel good just FLOWS naturally from there
Btw, this technique also works when you don’t know how you would feel then ie, can’t imagine how it would feel like to sell your house, get married, achieve your particular dream, or when it seems too distant.
Ask for what will make you happiest in the moment.
It was peace for me, it could be something different for you. I’m betting peace will resonate with many of you though. Cos even if you can’t imagine what it would feel like to get what you want, you DO know what peace feels like. Right?
It feels like a calm, happy acceptance that all is well in this moment.
What I learned from this:
1) Act and feel now as you would feel then
2) Let go of the outcome
3) When you can’t let go cos it’s so important to you or coming down to crunch time, go for peace!
4) If you’ve gotten out of alignment with your desire or let doubt creep in, it’s a hard sell to get back on that horse. So make your way back there one step at a time.
Oh and posts for the next 1.5 months will be coming to you from the warm Southern Hemisphere. Woohoo!
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I would love to hear if you’ve had a similar experience AND to know what your emergency manifesting technique is. How do you stay aligned in the face of “deadlines” or time pressures? Thanks in advance for sharing!
Unmanifesting The Manifested – How To KEEP What You Attract?
Filed under: Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life
This was my status message on FB yesterday:
So. What does it mean when one attracts situations/things/people easily & then unmanifests them within weeks, just as easily? Was the 1st manifestation an illusion or is it fickle mindedness?
It has happened with me enough times to get really curious about the process of asking, receiving and unmanifesting our manifestations.
Is it that we think we want something and then change our minds when we get it – kinda like how girls tend to fall for emotionally unavailable men and how men lose interest after the chase? Yes, it’s a big generalisation and also partly true.
Have you ever found yourself asking for something, intending it, seeing it come true and soon after, lost interest in it? What do you make of that? Was it that:
- your initial intention wasn’t clear enough
- you sent out mixed messages
- fear came in the way
- it was an opportunity to test the waters with small manifestations
- you needed validation that you were on the right track
- you resist the changes your dream coming true brings
- you resist the BIG stuff you want, hence manifest smaller stuff
- you manifest dreams that are great to have but not THAT important to you and not what you REALLY want
- you manifest things in order to know whether you really want that cos until then you may just think you do and this shows you how you really feel about it?
There could be so many underlying reasons you attract what you want (or think you want) and then not want it anymore. Lets see if we can simplify this a little further. So you:
- wanted something, got it and then decided it was too much / got bored / didn’t want it anymore and that change in energy and vibe made it go away
- got it, were afraid of losing it and so, sabotaged it
- didn’t want it
- are addicted to the struggle and drama of getting and losing
- something else I’m missing here
When I put these thoughts out there, I got some great responses which I want to share with you:
If the “sending” intention is strong, you will attract what you want. However, as time passes, several reasons can interfere and weaken the original impulse especially if things develop in an unwanted way, development is out of alignment with the sending intention or your conditioned negative, self-limiting, fearful perception, thoughts, communication, and behaviour overrides and dilutes the power of the intention. Then, poof! Yet another disappointment. – MW
If David Hawkins (Transcending Levels of Consciousness) knows his stuff, then each higher level of awareness brings with it a greater ease of manifestation. And then the very human “Goldilocks” behaviour can kick in. “I thought this was it, but now I know it’s not.” You don’t notice this too much when it is played out over decades. But with higher awareness the cycle gets much shorter. – Steve
I think you’re totally on the right track with the idea of the test runs. You manifest something you want (“baby” sized to test it out) and then you realize that in the having of it, your wanting changed. So you unmanifest it because it no longer suits your needs (it did, but now it doesn’t). – Leslie
You’re just really in tune with what you want & don’t want…and as what you want changes, your vibration “unmanifests” the old (or actually I think just manifests the new vibration). – Leslie
The word ‘fear’ just came to my mind. Is there something that you are afraid of in having what you’ve manifested? – Marcus M
If the unmanifesting was unwanted, I think it’s a matter of learning to ground the new, expanded energy. Try getting familiar with really being with your new reality. It may be that being in the presence of what you have attracted still raises some issues (worthiness, expectations, pressure, fear of loss…) that make you back off. Get acquainted with your new reality by breathing easily & slowly in the presence of it, and allowing it to really fill & permeate your space. – MV
Sounds like there is some resistance there. You manifest because the desire is strong yet there is some resistance around beliefs, comfort zone etc. As your vibration simultaneously changes while the manifestation is still unfolding, so does the evidence of the physical manifestation.
Vibe change = you lose what you manifested.
Think back to how you felt once you got what it was you wanted…do you notice any change? – LG
WOW!! I couldn’t have summed it up any better than this.
So it ranges from not really wanting it in the first place, to letting saboteurs creep in and stop you from moving to the next level.
So what are some ways you can manifest and KEEP your manifestations?
- Sit with your intentions for a wee bit longer
- Check in with them regularly
- Keep correcting and refining the direction of your dreams if they’ve changed
- Enjoy these manifestations as signs of land (via DB) or indicators that you’re going in the right direction.
- ——————– What else?
Because life isn’t just about what happens when you get to your dream, but more about the little tweaks and changes and new experiences that happen along the way. Just like a plane flying across the world doesn’t fly in a straight line and adjusts to the conditions, minor course corrections are what keep us going along the path to our dreams….
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Huge thanks to those who responded on facebook, for letting me share your insights! I am looking forward to hearing YOUR thoughts on this now. What have you noticed about manifesting, dreams, intentions, fears? Thanks in advance xo
Interview: On Real Life LOA, NLP, Alignment, Attracting Money, Conflicting Intentions
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Law of Attraction, Spirituality
Woohooo! I was interviewed on Seeking Mind, a leading Law of Attraction blog last week. Here’s the interview, unedited and in full. Let me know if you have any questions about the questions (lol) or the answers.
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Meeting Tia (even online) is like bumping into a bundle of positive energy. I got to know her through Twitter, a couple of months back, and I am glad that our paths crossed. What I love most about her is her willingness and resolve to extend her own boundaries.
If she is your friend on Twitter or Facebook you’ll know what I mean. She is always on the go and coming up with one way or the other to inspire us. I interviewed Tia about the Law of Attraction and here is that interview for your reading pleasure. Enjoy and Learn!
INTERVIEW ON THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
Sunny: What is the relationship between NLP and LOA? Do they compliment each other and if so which specific NLP techniques we can apply to LOA to make it more effective?
Tia: I’ll break it down for you. NLP = Neuro (mind) Linguistic (language) Programming (behavior).
It’s described as an attitude, a methodology and a communication tool that helps us change limiting beliefs, create empowering ones and model successful behavior, using techniques like reframing, muscle testing, eye accessing, sensory perception etc.
“At another level, NLP is about self-discovery, exploring identity and mission. It also provides a framework for understanding and relating to the ’spiritual’ part of human experience that reaches beyond us as individuals to our family, community and global systems. NLP is not only about competence and excellence, it is about wisdom and vision” That’s the Wikipedia version.
Language is VERY important in NLP and this is where LOA could be its sister. LOA says, what we focus on, we attract and it teaches us to use affirmations – act and speak as if what we wanted has already happened. NLP teaches us ways to communicate more effectively by changing the language we use, reframing how we say things and changing years of self limiting beliefs to replace them with self serving beliefs.
Can you see the similarities? Of course there are differences too but what you focus on expands so I’m sticking with what I want to believe 
The NLP technique that works best for me in my LOA practice is reframing – the art of changing a context or situation.
Example: If I wanted to change a belief that says “I’m no good at public speaking”, I would imagine myself in a situation where I feel confident and relaxed and people tell me how good I am at public speaking.. I would see myself walk onto a stage and feel comfortable, I’d pick the microphone up and feel it in my hands, like an extension of me.. I would imagine this room full of supportive, excited people eager to learn from me… etc. I would feel how I want to feel in that situation.
And I’d say to myself “Wow, I must be good at public speaking if so many people want to hear me”. As I got comfortable with that I would progress to “I’m a great public speaker, I have so much fun and am a natural at it”. Thus integrating my two favorite approaches.
Getting into the feeling place is very important – whether it’s by visualizing or affirming, or acting as if. Use whatever works best for YOU.
Sunny: Why do most people fail to attract enough money in their lives? How can one effectively change one’s limiting beliefs about money which have been drilled into him for years by his environment?
Tia: Gosh Sunny, the golden question! I’d say a HUGE part of being able to attract money or anything else we want in our lives has to do with our beliefs. Think about the messages you got from your parents, their friends, teachers and society in general.
Stuff like “money is hard to come by without struggle, only the rich get richer, if you want to be rich you have to study and work hard” or if you were lucky, messages like “money is just energy, the more you do what you love the more you’ll attract to you”.
Unfortunately, experience shows that it’s the former message style most of us grew up hearing. Because that’s what our early childhood influencers learned as well. It’s no one’s fault, but so important to be aware of what our money messages are before we can start to change them.
It all starts by starting. What I mean by that is, take the first step.
Pick up a book, start reading personal development blogs, hire a coach, become aware of your actions, words and thought, question your beliefs and ask “who told me this”?
The most important thing to know is that to change, one must WANT to change. So I’d ask, do you really want to change these beliefs? Often people think “of course I want to change, I want more money, what a stupid question that is, Tia”
Not really. Here’s the deal – most of our beliefs are subconscious. So, on a conscious level if you think you’re ready to change your money beliefs and attract abundance and it’s not happening yet, could be there’s an unknown barrier to it. You’ve now got two opposing beliefs that cancel each other out!
Let me explain. A great way to find clues to resistance is by writing down everything you think would happen if you became rich (or whatever else your dream is).
Example:
- I’d have enough money to do what I want
- Life would be so easy
- I’d quit my job and travel the world
All sounding great, right?
Well the flip side could well be thoughts like:
- Friends and family would be jealous
- I won’t know if people want to know me just because I have money or because I’m a great guy/girl
- I might become lazy (clashes with your value of being productive etc)
Another common reason is something called the “set point”. I can’t remember where I first heard about this but it’s the reason why most people who win the lottery end up losing it all within years.
What happens is that we all have a set point – an amount of money that we are comfortable with. So for someone who thinks $10,000 is a lot of money, every time they get set to earn more, they end up sabotaging themselves subconsciously to ensure they don’t have more than they are comfortable with. Sounds crazy but it’s a fact.
Comfort zones are highly dangerous for this reason – they’re the anathema to growth.
It’s so important to change your mindset as well as your belief system to attract anything you want in life. Other techniques you can use are Psych-K (muscle testing to change beliefs), NLP, affirmations etc.
Sunny: How do you align your words, thoughts and deeds so that you are congruent in your life? Which has the highest vibrational imprint among them, words, thoughts or deeds?
Tia: You ask some great questions my friend. Mike Dooley of TUT says, “Thoughts Become Things – Choose The Good Ones!” At least, I think it was him who said that.
Your energetic body-mind has the highest impact. Words, thoughts and actions all have an impact on the vibe you have but I’d say we’re habituated to doing what we do as a result of what we think.
I wish I could tell you a magic formula! Ok maybe there is a small magic formula that is SO simple we forget about it – do what feels good! At any given time, make feeling good your priority.
Follow your intuition and take Inspired Action.
This is the best and fastest way I’ve found to get into alignment with my desires.
Do.What.Feels.Good. That’s it.
(If you have questions like “but I can’t ignore reality and if the reality is that things aren’t going the way I want, how can I feel good?” then this post is for you to learn how to change your reality. And on the flip side, be careful not to use feeling good as cop-out)
Sunny: What role has the Law of Attraction played in your own life and how do you apply it on daily basis?
Tia: I love the Law of Attraction! Truth be told, I don’t like to limit it to being called LOA because it sounds a bit woo-woo to people. I prefer to call it conscious creation techniques. What’s in a name though hey, it changed my life and that’s a fact.
How did it change my life? I stopped blaming people for making my life hard. I took control of my own life and happiness. I started focusing on what I wanted rather than what I didn’t want. I stopped taking anything personally.
I realized that just because I failed at something didn’t make me a failure. I developed confidence and self esteem. I practice living in the present moment (very challenging thing to do!).
By embracing life and counting my blessings, I started attracting MORE of them in my life.
I practice LOA daily by being aware of what I’m thinking and choosing to create as part of my reality. Every time I have a thought like “why hasn’t what I wanted happened yet?” or notice my vibration dipping or being upset, I use my 7 tips to manage your vibe or use Abraham-Hicks Vibrational Scale to move to a better feeling place.
Sunny: How do we resolve the issue of conflicting intentions?
Tia: Conflicting intentions could be telling us that we don’t really want the thing we say we do want, or they could be an indicator of self limiting beliefs or they could be our fear about actually GETTING what we ask for – any number of reasons! Some ways to find out what’s going on are:
- Awareness – Get clear on what you want. Not what you say you want, but what you really, truly want. Until that happens, every intention you send out will be cancelled by a conflicting one. So might as well find out what it is right away.
- Take a piece of paper and write down everything that would change in your life were this intention to come to life.
- Make sure you’ve written the flip side down too (as talked about in the second question above). Often these will be fears or self limiting beliefs that sabotage your desires
- Feel the fear / resistance to anything that came up in the previous question, accept them and listen to the message they want you to hear
- Work through the fear/ resistance – decide if what you want is worth facing these fears and make a commitment to it.
- Remain aware of self sabotage attempts to derail the intentions
- Stop giving it any negative energy. Focus on what feels good!
Sunny: Do you think that events and circumstances as either good or bad? When a seemingly tragic or negative event happens in your life, how do you handle it?
Tia: Everything that happens is a result of our vibrational creation. While I believe there isn’t a good or bad, just actions and consequences and the meaning we give them, there are some things I really struggle with (like child abuse, wars etc).
All I can say is that there is a force larger than us called Human Consciousness. What you or I do has an effect on the entire world by way of a ripple effect. We human beings are a part of everything that happens and we use labels like good or bad because we need a context to live within. Because we believe in duality and separateness rather than acknowledge that they are the sides of the same coin and intermingled with each other.
I’ve been through some rough times and what keeps me going is knowing that no matter what happens I will be able to handle it. I get that it’s hard to imagine we created something “bad”. “WHY would I do something like that” you may ask.
I believe that we came to Earth with a purpose (which we forgot about when we took birth.) If my purpose is to make a difference in this world and make sure no child feels abandoned, then to know what it feels like I must go through abandonment myself. That’s something I could look at and say is bad because it hurt me but if it helped me become more independent and gave me inner strength to be a survivor – would the abandonment still be considered bad?
No, right? It’s a matter of perspective. What doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger.
I handle negative events by really feeling the associated anger or sadness (instead of pushing it away), going through all the emotions that come up with it, allowing myself to feel it all. Then, I start picking myself up again and reminding myself of what’s good in my life, everything has a reason and what can I learn from this situation.
Here is a process I use that I wrote about:
- Make peace with what is, you don’t have to like it but do acknowledge it
- Feel, feel, feel through your emotions, don’t hold back
- Talk/write about the things you have with appreciation
- Continue to be grateful for all that is in your vibrational escrow and ready to appear in your physical world
- Stay focused on what you want, affirm it daily
- Keep blame and guilt to a minimum, not serving you!
- Drink lots of water to hydrate & flush out toxic energies
- Reach for a better feeling place, one thought at a time
- Practice extreme self love, forgiveness and gentleness towards yourself and others
- Reach out for support – friends, books, meditation, blogs like this etc
- Detach from the outcome and the process of wanting the manifestation to happen in a certain way – you have NO idea how wonderfully it is being orchestrated behind the scenes and by being attached to it happening your way, you’ll just block this universal magique (gosh how I love that word, can you tell!) (Sunny: Yes, I can
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For the rest of the article, check out when life throws me a curve ball.
Sunny: What other ideas, thoughts or inspirations would you like to share with the readers of Seeking Mind.Com?
Tia: I’ll share some of my favorite quotes and ideas!
- Do or do not, there is no try (from Yoda!)
- Happiness is easier than you think it is.
- Live passionately! A life without passion is a life half lived.
- Don’t wait till you know everything to do anything. Do it now!
If you’re a procrastinator, you’ll find it very useful to listen to this call for tips on overcoming procrastination. As you hear people’s stories, you’ll be surprised to learn that it may not be a bad thing sometimes.
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Sunny: Tia, I’d like to thank you for sharing your thoughts on the Law of Attraction with us.
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