When Nothing Is Happening, Everything Is.

August 31, 2010 by Tia · 7 Comments
Filed under: Inspired Action, Life 

Mike Dooley says – you know what happens just before something big is about to happen?

Nothing.

So if you feel that nothing is happening, celebrate for it is just about to burst through!

Have patience. Yes, it’s the hardest thing to do when you want something so bad you can almost taste it.

Still, have patience.

If you find yourself procrastinating, don’t sweat it. Procrastination can actually be good and a big part of the creative process.

Often something you thought would take a few days or weeks can turn into months. You could be getting a new website designed and go back and forth for ages with nothing really fitting. It can seem like endlessly treading water as you wonder why it isn’t all just falling into place.

You stay patient and trusting because you understand something of how the Universe & Creation works.

Through it all, you keep following your intuition. You clarify and refine your vision, mission and purpose over and over again until it finally starts taking a shape that makes your heart skip a beat.

You know you’re on the right track, you’re getting closer.

You meditate on your vision, you keep hitting pitches and taking Inspired Action, baby steps in sometimes completely unrelated directions.

You act with faith, get started and keep going even when it seems like nothing is happening, with your eyes firmly fixed on your vision. Tweak along the way, keep tweaking, moving, adjusting course as you go along.

You see, sometimes, you just have to get going and trust that your ducks will fall into line. If you spend all your time trying to get them in a row befoe you start, it may never happen.

And yet, at other times, you need to follow your intuition and “procrastinate” on certain things.

Don’t try to force action if it’s not feeling good. In that case especially, trust that there is a reason behind the procrastination, figure out what it is and then take appropriate (in)action as the case may be.

All the while keeping the Golden Rule in mind - Do What Feels Good.

It won’t be long before you see evidence that it really WAS all happening perfectly behind the scenes. Soon you’ll be too busy celebrating and reaping your rewards to ever remember a time that it wasn’t.

And the days of “procrastinating” will make perfect sense.

To know more about When, Why and How Procrastination actually serves you, sign up to get a copy of my brand new hot off the press free eBook “Procrastination is your Friend – Make it Work for You”!

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Have you ever put off something you were supposed to do and found out later that it actually worked out better for you? I’d love to hear your stories of how procrastinating helped, rather than harmed you. Thanks in advance for sharing!

ps: Would love to include your Procrastination Success Stories in my eBook so if you’re game, leave a comment telling your story and/or email me at tia@coachtia.com. Let’s get the word out. Cheers!

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Manifesting in the Matrix

July 18, 2010 by Tia · 5 Comments
Filed under: Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction 

No, not THAT one.

The Matrix is something I learned about yesterday at Tut.com’s Playing the Matrix event in Vancouver.

Now, if you’ve been around this blog a while or we’re connected on twitter / elsewhere on social media, you KNOW how obsessed I am with my daily TUT notes from the Universe.

They are personally written for me, just me, not the thousands of people they go out to every day, who just get it incidentally. You see, me & Mike, we’ve got a deal.

(For those who don’t know what I’m talking about – just sign up now for Notes from the Universe & thank me later).

I have a feeling the Matrix just changed my manifesting forever.

This was a workshop quite unlike most others – it had to be, it’s TUT! – and even though most of the concepts were already known to me, something about the way Mike presented them flipped a switch.

Here it is then, in the simplest way I can explain.

The Matrix goes from left to right. On the left of the manifestation scale, the # 1 thing we all want, is:

HAPPINESS

Right after happiness come other things like peace, prosperity, contentment, freedom, passion, fun, laughter etc, which take high precedence in our lives.

These are the core inner desires behind all our outer desires.

For example, travel and see the world: outer desire.

How you will feel when you do that, in my case : excited to explore new cultures, be connected, appreciate beauty, THOSE are the real desires.

Mike also included 5 areas of our lives on the left (or middle) of the matrix, including livelihood, relationships and abundance.

These are the desires where our focus needs to be if we TRULY want to manifest easily, quickly & amazingly!

  • Stay open to the form, the how’s, the who’s, the where’s, the what’s.
  • Know how you want to feel & find ways to feel like that now.

But what do we do instead?

We, me, most of us get drawn into the right side of the Matrix, into varying degrees of wants and desires, ranging from career, love, money, friends, travel to specific jobs, employers, people and things.

When you’re focused on the stuff on the right, esp the furthest on the Matrix (THIS girl, THAT job, exactly $10,000 from lotto), you’re limiting yourself, limiting the Universe and limiting all opportunities that are trying to come your way.

Say you really want a relationship and you’re just hell bent on having Jimmy as your man, Jimmy who works in the same office as you and doesn’t know you exist, or Jimmy who doesn’t feel the same way about you.

Note: I don’t know any Jimmy’s!

By focusing on a specific person (come on, who hasn’t done this one time or the other in their lives ;) ), you’re saying you don’t want anyone else cos your limited life experience can’t even begin to imagine that someone wayyyy more perfect for you, who is everything you want and don’t even KNOW you want, is coming your way.

The more you place limits, timelines and caveats on your wishes, the harder you’re making it to manifest & closer you are to disappointment. Especially if you’re attached to them.

Yeah I know what you’re thinking now – but what about vision boards, goals, being specific about numbers, dates etc?

Great point!

There’s HUGE power in setting dates as in “millionaire by 2011″ as long as  you’re not attached to it happening or even how it happens!

If you HAVE to be attached, be attached to the left side of the matrix and DETACH from the right.

State exactly what you want, use specifics to get into the feeling place of what you want, and let events unfold. This isn’t to say don’t take any action at all, unless that’s what feels right and good.

If you want to do this effortlessly instead of pushing boulders up a mountain, be smart about it! Use leverage, take tiny actions. To quote a TUTism,

You don’t take “baby steps” for the distance they cover, but to put yourself within reach of life’s magic.

Just like you don’t hoist your sails to move the boat, but to put yourself within reach of the wind.

Hoist, baby, hoist, baby, 1, 2, 3, 4 -

The Universe

ps: Just like you don’t sing in the car to be heard… Why do you do that?

How empowering & freeing is that!?

To know that you don’t have to do it alone, that taking steps aren’t about doing it all but getting you to the tipping point?

And that if you just keep showing up, day after day, one day things will change so fast it will seem like magic and you’ll wonder what just happened!

Believe this now – people, things and events are conspiring in your favour.

Trust that there is a LOT going on behind the scenes that you don’t know about, and don’t need to know about.

All you have to do is decide what you want in general terms, get specific about your desires if that feels good, and keep doing one little things a day towards your dreams. Then, in no uncertain terms, it.will.happen.

Manifest in the Matrix!

General to Specific. Left to Right.

Check out Mike Dooley’s Matrix tour coming to a city near you – the stories he shared about his life & adventures are totally inspiring and FUN and this event is just the coolest.

Over to you! I know many of us have manifested very specific things & I’m thinking we probably gave up attachment temporarily to allow that to happen.

What do you think? Have you had any experiences to the contrary? What are your easiest manifestations and what’s really been hard for you so far? Look forward to your thoughts & comments.

ps: Like the post? Go ahead & hit the “like” button or share it, thanks so much! x

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The Flawed Search for Courage

July 8, 2010 by Tia · 15 Comments
Filed under: Experiments, Fun, Inspired Action, courage 

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One of you posed a question in the rebranding survey that got me thinking.

Specifically, you wondered how you could find the mental space, the courage you need to take control of your life & career.

One that’s not as enjoyable as you wish.

It’s not the first time I’ve heard the wistfulness and frustation behind the query.

If you’re not someone who feels like this, then you’re someone who used to or someone who knows someone else who still does.

It’s that feeling of a life half lived. On everyone’s terms but your own, or so it feels. I can tell you this, it wasn’t the easiest thing in the world for me to find the answers. And when I did, oh boy.

It really was the simplest thing.

We often say “it’s simple but not easy” (sounds like a self limiting belief to me, one that I definately want to explore cos isn’t Ease just a matter of habit – the more we practise, the easier it get? .. I digress).

Wikipedia defines Courage as: bravery, fortitude, will, and intrepidity, the ability to confront fear, pain, risk/danger, uncertainty, or intimidation.

You already know that the concept of courage being something external that you have to find or develop in order to get the life you want, is flawed.

There are many occasions in your life that you have exhibited courage, even if you didn’t know it at the time. Those were times you didn’t have to ask for it, look for it or try to build it.

Those were times when you were in alignment with your values, your beliefs, your essential self. The times you were just BEING.

Like when you stood up for a friend being picked on, when you let yourself be vulnerable in love, when you were hurt by someone and got over it, when you got fired and picked up the pieces to start over, when you left home to go to Uni thousands of miles away, when you spoke up at the office meeting.

You might think “oh, but that’s not courage, that’s just life”.

I’m here to tell you,

Courage isn’t just something you magically grow in an emergency or when something goes wrong.

Courage is not something that comes to you when you’re fighting a serious illness like cancer. That my friends, is what you do to survive.

In my opinion, we’ve got it backwards.

Courage is daily life.

The little decisions we make on a regular basis when we choose “right” from wrong”, act with integrity, the choices we make when no one is looking.

It’s all too easy to dismiss those decisions as “life”.

What would change if you started viewing yourself as living courageously, with heart, every day of your life?

Because you are.

You’re just not seeing it, or focusing on it enough. As long as you think courage is something you have to develop, you’ll find yourself lacking.

When you start noticing and being aware of the actions you take daily, the words you speak, the thoughts you think, and commit to them being aligned with your values, then my friend, you’re living a courageous life.

Even though the degree might vary.

Each time you make a decision to be who you truly are, you’re tapping into your inner self, which is where courage lives. And you start living a life YOU want.

So how do you become more aware of how truly courageous you ALREADY are and CELEBRATE your way into more acts of courage?

Here are my top tips:

  • Treat life as an adventure - you’re not here to “get it right”, you’re here to have the experiences you want
  • Raise your consciousness
  • Find one thing you did each day that is courageous by these standards
  • Make a list of times in your life you’ve acted with courage, ie, listened to your heart, stood up for someone or something you believed in. You’ll be surprised how many times you were being brave but didn’t even know it.
  • Experiment with fear
  • Remember that everything is temporary - if you lose what you fear losing, you will still be MORE than ok
  • Know that no matter what, you cannot make a wrong choice – your choices ARE your unique life path

Courage isn’t about freeing yourself of undesirable situations, it’s allowing yourself to step into more of YOU. How’s that for living your life to its fullest, funnest potential? There’s nothing to change, just more of you to discover :)

I’d love to hear about you – when was the last time you acted courageously, whether you realised it at the time or not? Are there some areas of your life where you’re more courageous than others? What’s different there? Looking forward to your insights and experiences. Thanks in advance for sharing!

ps: Do you know someone who could benefit from having a little more faith in themselves? Please do them a kindness and share this post. Many thanks!

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25 Things I wish I’d Learned Sooner in my Life

June 25, 2010 by Tia · 44 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Life, courage 

Back in 1998, fresh out of Grad school and working in my first ever “real” job as an Account Executive in an Advertising agency in New Delhi, I knew.

http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/

I knew that I was going to quit the corporate world within 5 years.

I lasted 4.

Out of which, I probably only worked a total of 23 months and took a lot of time off to travel or experience being in between jobs.

I should have known then, that life in a cubicle wasn’t for me – something fabulous coach Pam Slim knows well. (That’s her book on the right, if you haven’t read it yet, GET it.)

It STILL took another 5 years for me to start my personal development and awareness journey with many twists and turns, to bring me where I am today.

A place of understanding, expansion, trust, happiness, knowing. I have learned, experienced, struggled, loved, lost and finally come home to me.

To the voice that was waiting to be discovered, to the courage I’ve always had but never known, to live life boldly on my own terms.

I don’t regret anything that I did or experienced, not even the painful events of my life and yet, when super awesome blogger Abubakar Jamil asked me to write a post on Things I Wish I’d Known or Learned Earlier in my Life, I was in like Flynn.

While I believe that our experiences are necessary for us to grow and evolve, there are a few gentle reminders that I wish I could have given myself – or should I say, started believing much earlier in my life.

So, knowing what I know now, what would I have told a much younger Tia to absolutely know and trust? What would I tell you?

1) It’s okay to not know what you want to be when you grow up. Not being able to pick a career or know what you want to do does not mean that you aren’t “living up to your potential” or wasting your life. One day, it will come together.

Till then, be okay with not knowing. Or, like me, never “grow up” and pick one thing to do for the rest of your life - keep sampling everything you’re passionate about and interested in.

(If you don’t think that’s possible, think again. I’ve made a career out of it. Ask me how tia at coachtia.com)

2) You always have a choice. Even when life isn’t panning out the way you want, you can choose how to respond. Even when you feel completely helpless, you have a choice!

Don’t spend your time thinking you have to do what’s expected of you, wanting to be liked and making decisions based on all the wrong things.

3) You are Loved! When you think you’re all alone in this world, you’re not. You’re never alone or unloved as long as spirit lives within you. If you ever feel alone and needy, step outside and look up at the sky, the zillions of stars above you.

4) Enjoy the in between spaces. The time it takes to make your dreams come true. The periods of singledom. The time spent in relationships. Don’t be in one situation and wish for it to be something else. That is truly a sad waste of time.

Cos you’ll look back one day and wish you were more present, instead of worrying about when things would change. And believe it or not, those are the things you’ll miss :)

5) Everything will be fine in the end. If it’s not fine, it’s not the end. I really truly wish I’d known that when life sucks, it isn’t going to suck forever and all one has to do is wait the wave out. Or better still, grab a surf board and ride the damn thing!

6) Your heart will get broken time and again and just when you feel you can’t take it any more, it will heal. And you’ll find love again.

7) Being selfish is not a bad thing.

8. Trust that feeling in your gut. Those times you said something but felt something else? INTUITION! Your inner guidance system that will never do you wrong. You already know. Trust yourself.

9) Don’t make excuses for who you are. Don’t pretend to like music your friends like, or change your mind, behaviour or tastes to become someone you’re not. If you don’t want a 6 figure salary or the life they want, own it. If you want to make a million dollars, own that too.

Whoever you are, whatever you want, is valid!

10) Scrap some words from your vocabulary - like should, must, but. Create your own. “Happying” “Vortexualising” “Magicking” (some of my faves)

11) It can be scary to be you - but if you stand up and say “this is me”, you give permission to yourself and others. It’s the highest form of self love and acceptance! Embrace your quirks. Be brave. The world needs you to be YOU.

For inspiration, check out Vancouver’s SPANDY ANDY, a man who embodies this 1250%.

http://spandyandy.com/2009/10/20/new-tight-and-bright-gear/

12) Make decisions based on what you want to experience next, NOT on the basis of pros and cons. This is taken from one of my favourite personal development bloggers, Steve Pavlina.

13) Travel will change you. Be prepared to expand and grow like you never thought possible. Oh, and travel – the earlier, the better.

14) Create your own values. Make them yours. Know what makes you happy.

15) You are beautiful, you are loved, you are special. Never let anyone tell you you’re not.

16) Your parents are doing the best they can. Forgive them and quietly listen to your heart to tell you what to do with your life.

17) Failing at something does not make you a failure. Yeah I know how cliched this is and if only I’d believed that when I was younger … something I still struggle with sometimes.

Also, you WILL fail, without fail! And it’s fine to dislike it, as long as it doesn’t stop you from getting back on the horse!

18) Quitting IS an option. The sooner you accept that and stop trying to please everyone, the faster you’ll progress. Check out what Seth Godin has to say about quitting your job and when it’s a good time to quit on other things.

19) Throw tantrums in private. Express yourself fully but don’t take it out on people you love.

20) Some days, you won’t want to get out of bed. That’s ok. It’s normal. You will survive.

21) Nutella makes everything better. It really, truly does. Comfort food rocks!

22) Life is WAY easier if you go with the flow – row your boat downstream. If someone tells you you’re lazy, CELEBRATE. Love your “I’m taking the easy way or no way” attitude and if you don’t have one, cultivate it :)

23) Comparison is the deadliest disease. A little competition is healthy but know this – there is no race, you will not fall behind, there’s no one to catch up to, you have all the time in the world.

This one thing is probably one of your most consistent challenges & requires gentle reminders to self.

24) Don’t be mean. Just don’t.

25) Have more opinions and don’t be scared to share them.

And for a bonus:

Dream more, make up stories of how you want things to be. When people laugh, laugh back at or with them. Years later, they’ll come to YOU for inspiration, advice and insights.



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Over to you – what’s something you wish you’d known earlier? If you enjoyed reading this post and think it could help inspire someone you know, please go right ahead & hit the share / “like” buttons. They & I will love you for it! Thanks!

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Why Raise Your Children to be Entrepreneurs?

June 18, 2010 by Tia · 7 Comments
Filed under: Business, Inspired Action, courage 

It’s a busy week working on rebranding exercises given to me by my Brand Coach, Andrea Shillington.

It’s so much fun seeing new directions emerge, fine tuning services and web content, and getting excited about a particular group of people that I can’t wait to start coaching soon!

In the midst of it all, I found this video that a new connection on twitter made a couple of months ago.

Cameron Herold, a Vancouver based businessman gave a Ted Talk in Edmonton called “How to Raise Your Children to be Entrepreneurs”.

I loved it SO much that I’m sharing it here with you.

Why is this topic so important?

Many reasons, 2 of which I’ll outline:

1) Because I believe in Entrepreneurship. And kids.

2) Because You believe in Entrepreneurship. And kids.

In teaching younger generations that it’s vital to think for themselves and encouraging them to find their passions as early as possible.

We, you and I, are in a position to do that for them.

To help and to learn from them.

As kids we think everything is possible, the world is our Oyster. As grown ups, we forget.

Let this be a reminder to you.

  • What would your life have been if your parents had taught you entrepreneurial traits?
  • And if they did, how have you benefited, what have you learned that the rest of us are just learning?
  • If you could have a do over, what would you do differently to raise your child?
  • What do you wish you’d been encouraged to do more?

These are some of the questions popping up in my mind after watching this vid.

Thanks Cameron, for an excellent talk.

I’m stoked to share this with the rad, cool, forward thinking readers of this blog. I hope you all enjoy his story & when you finish, please leave a comment telling me what you’re thinking.



Would love to hear what your views on this are and how YOU encourage your children to think outside the box.

What would you want your child to learn and know about life, passion and careers?

Let’s get this conversation started!

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