Better to feel them well and good so they don’t have any reason to hang around and keep coming back with force. Cos when they do come back, you’ll know how to make sure they don’t stick around too long.

It’s like my friend Kim Falconer says – not inviting the 13th witch to the party just makes her mad and she seeks deadly revenge (chanelling Sleeping Beauty here!) but by inviting her in and letting her behave badly if she wants, the collateral damage is much lower.

Hey thanks for sharing the process you used to get in touch with your fears, that was very enlightening and I know it will help anyone who reads it.

I’ll end by saying You can’t be something to everyone, so just be everything to someone Looking forward to hearing you finished your book!

I actually read it just before a coaching session and the insight that it provided was pivotal. I realize that too often I have the flip side feelings and then quickly replace them with what I want but in the end I have not made any progress. Today I really looked at one of them, and as you also said, allowed myself to experience those negative feelings. It made me not only aware of the limits they have been, but it also opened me up to see the truth and falseness of them.

As example, I have been writing a novel for about two years. I am on the fifth or sixth revision, but feeling closer to finished. I just got some very constructive feedback from a bookworm friend, and I also got encouragement. (She wanted to read the next chapters I finished! Woo Who!) I named several reasons why I fear sending my manuscript to an editor or publisher. One is fear of rejection, and then the other is fear of it being accepted/published.

If it is published I fear opening myself up to hundreds/thousands/dare I say millions of readers. Some will not like it. My coach asked me to name a book that I didn’t like. The point she made is that I don’t like every book written, every painting painted, every song sung. The truth I learned is there will be those who it does not resonate with. The flip side of that negative feeling of fear is there also will be people who it does resonate with.

That fear has value. Examining it, in order to learn its value so I can make my choice, has even more value.

Thank you for a great lesson. I also agree with Sunny, you are a bundle of positive energy.
Berta