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I Choose Winnie the Pooh Happy! What Do You Choose?
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I am a bear of very little brain, long words bother me.
So this post is like me. Short and simple and very very sweet.
I woke up this morning with a real conviction – to choose my feelings today.
So I chose Happy!
What Are You Choosing Today?
Add it in the comments section so Tia and I can send you good juju!
Yes, sometimes, it can be THAT easy.
White Slippers Slowing You Down?
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction
I have these pretty, adorable white slippers.
I love them! They make me feel summery and girly.
Yet, every time I wear them to go out somewhere, I’m nervous.
These slippers have terrible grip you see. In the year I’ve owned them, I’ve nearly slipped and fallen about 90% of the time. Crossing roads, at traffic signals, climbing down stairs, walking on grass, you name it.
2 weeks ago I finally fell down. Hard. Boy that hurt!
So of course I’m scared it’s going to happen again. Not to mention they spoil my gait by putting pressure on my back and hips as I concentrate on walking slowly on the balls of my feet, leaning forward ever so slightly to keep my balance in case the slip happened. Wow, can you feel the tension there?!
You’d think I would know better.
Well, I do.
But I still wear them.
Huh? WHY?
Ahhh cos’ nothing tooo bad has happened, you see.
Yet.
I always save myself in the nick of time. I tempt fate. After all it’s a small price to pay for feeling great and looking good. And they’re just so darn cute!
Hmmmmm? Did I just say that?!
Really!? :O
So I’ll wear these slippers till something BAD happens?
*Sigh* sometimes, I just learn the hard way … It got me thinking..
WHY am I clinging on to something that’s doing me no good?
(Sometimes I have to ask myself a few times before I give me an answer!)
Oooh starting to sound familiar now. It’s like … like.. that habit you’ve come to not particularly like, but you do it anyways.
It’s not doing you any favours, it could even be keeping you from getting what you want (in the case above that would be to feel carefree and pretty – ain’t nothing carefree about a girl walking on eggshells now, is there).
The kind of habit like:
- Pulling a face as you look in the mirror while getting dressed
- Saying you deserve more and accepting less
- Giving up on something before you even get started
- Feeling that no matter what you do, you just can’t lose those pounds
- Wanting to meet a great guy, then saying no to dates
- Saying you want to eat better as you reach for the crisps
- Wanting to save more and splurging on a pair of shoes
I could go on. But I’ll ask you, can you identify a habit like that? One that might possibly reduce the quality of an experience?
Or one that you say you don’t like or want to change and yet, find yourself repeating day after day?
I know I’m not the only one. We keep good company ay?
Wearing my white slippers might not have had a serious consequence so far but what if I slipped and hit my head someday? Would that have been worth it?
No.
A thousand times no.
Then why keep persisting with what hurts you, doesn’t make you feel good, keeps you stuck, stops you from moving forward, brings you down and wastes your time and energy, rather than changing those thoughts, beliefs and actions?
I know all those excuses you’re going to make.
I make them too.
Question is …. watchu gonna do?
If you’ve been doing and saying the same things and getting the same results, it’s time to throw those white slipper like beliefs and words away.
But only if you’re ready to stop tripping and falling and get a grip, of course. Ha! Count ME in!
Let GO of what you know doesn’t work for you as you create the life you want.
You KNOW it, now go SHOW it.
ps: Guess what’s going to be tossed away tonight? 
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I’m curious. Got any “white slippers” in your life you could do without? What do you want to throw out? And watchu gonna do differently? I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts! Thanks in advance for sharing!
Ready, Fire, Aim – Take That Step Today!
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Life
Ready, Fire, Aim.
A concept I first heard about from Carrie Wilkerson, the Barefoot Exec in early 2009.
The idea behind it? Take action, imperfect action, ANY action, today. Now.
Recovering perfectionists like you and me know the drill.
We don’t take action unless it’s perfect.
There can be nothing left to chance. Especially failure.
All the I’s have to be dotted, the T’s crossed. Ducks neatly in a row. Then, and only then can we take action.
Or not. Invariably, many projects and ideas get left by the wayside because A hadn’t happened for B to have happened.
And weeks, months or even years down the line, you finally take action on that thing you couldn’t and almost always think “That wasn’t so bad / hard to do! Why did I wait so long? Wow, I sure wasted a lot of time being scared / under-confident / unsure”.
Now sometimes it may turn out that the timing was perfect when you finally DID take action and on the flip side, there’s nothing you did today that you couldn’t have done yesterday.
All it required was some courage. The extra knowledge, resources and opportunities you were waiting for? Could have done without them.
If something is really important to you, do yourself a favour and get focused.
Commit to making your dreams a reality and ask fear to come along for the ride instead of holding you back.
I learned this lesson YET again last week. For 9 months I’d been talking about doing a teleclass and / or starting a radio show. 9 months of watching other people do it and thinking “I’ve got to do that soon”.
It was a chat with a friend that propelled me into action. I had NO idea what I was going to talk about but I decided I was going to announce it in my August 15th ezine (sign up for the next issue on the top right of this page), which was 2 days away.
At the last minute I picked a topic, “Overcoming Procrastination”.
Oh, The IRONY!!
Once done, I decided on a date and announced it to all and sundry. Next, a moment of panic. What would I say, how would I structure it, what if no one showed up? Omg I was going to fail, who was I to think I could pull this off?
Wanna guess what happened?
I stayed up the night before researching procrastination and remembering all the times I indulged, and why. Along the way, I worried some more that no one would show up and even told my mom she had to call in case no one else did
Finally, after a couple of hours, I asked myself why I was doing this, and what I wanted from it. Realised that if taking bold, imperfect, inspired action could inspire even one person to do the same, it was worth it. The rest of it was a buh-reeze!
When you focus on what you can do for someone rather than what something can do for you, it takes the fear away. There’s no charge, no desire to look good anymore. It’s all about giving. That focus, that goal makes it all the more worthwhile.
The tele-call was informative and interactive, many people showed up and it was hugely fun for all involved! And I thought “OMG this was so easy to do, WHY did I wait so long!”? Ha! You can catch the recording here to know more about WHY we procrastinate (and why it isn’t all bad).
Let’s go over a quick recap of how you can take Imperfect Inspired Action today inspite of all your excuses:
- Commit to an idea, name it, put a ‘use by’ date on it
- Tell someone (or many ones) about it
- Fill the gaps – do your research
- Take action now, don’t wait for the big “AHA” moment – we all want the *lighbulb* to go off signifying some great moment of truth…
- But the reality is, it’s often the small steps that lead to big changes.
So give up waiting for that perfect moment, till you have more confidence, practice, experience, knowledge, resources, support, time, money, energy, motivation and what have you, to take action on something you’ve been putting off for a better day.
Just get ready, fire that torpedo and let loose!
After all, the best part is that you can keep correcting course till you get to the destination.
An airplane doesn’t fly in a straight line from A to B, it changes course and altitude depending on the weather conditions …. if it waited till the weather was absolutely perfect, you wouldn’t be flying home for Christmas!
The path to success is paved with Courage and Commitment.
Promise yourself you’ll do what it takes and ask for help and guidance from your higher self if you need a dose of the 2 C’s?
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Would love your take on this: where could you do with more action instead of timidity? What are the payoffs keeping you stuck in “tomorrow land”? What’s ONE thing you’re going to do today that you’ve been procrastinating on?
For more on Imperfect Action, check out this great read by Christine Kane, a fabulous inspiring blogger.
Free Tele-Call “Overcoming Procrastination – Should you even try”? Thurs, Aug 20th
It’s Party Time!! Right click on the link BELOW to listen to / download the recording of the “Overcoming Procrastination – Should you?” call held on Thursday, Aug 20th. ——–> episode1-overcoming-procrastination <————- Happy Listening!
I took baby steps towards my own Garden of Eden and came up with a special, FREE call just for YOU on Kicking Procrastination’s Bee-Hind (and should you even try?). It only took me 9 months to get down to it
Question: Why do you put off things that are important to you ?
Is it a habit that is counterproductive, needless and delaying and leads to stress, guilt, loss of productivity and more procrastination?
Or is it telling you something isn’t that important to you?
Some of the reasons we put things off are that we don’t know where to start, are afraid of failure, perfectionists, lack discipline – motivation – knowledge -skills – focus, think it’s too big or time consuming a task, stressed out, not sure of the first or next step to take, and inertia.
Do you get so overwhelmed that not doing it is the easier choice? And yet when you finally get started on it, you wish you hadn’t wasted all that time procrastinating..?
Here’s what Procrastination is NOT:
- It’s not a Time Management issue
- Or about Planning
- Or as trivial or harmless as you may think
- Or as bad as you may think
- Surprised hey?
Do you tell yourself “I’ll do this tomorrow, that’s when I’ll be more productive” or “I work well under pressure so I’ll just leave it till the last minute” or “I’ll just finish what I’m doing, then I’ll be able to focus on this pressing issue”?
Would you rather have yourself and others think that you don’t have the time, instead of admitting fears around your ability to do something?
Many procrastinators act (or don’t act) out of fear of failure or pressure to perform, lack focus and find the perfect distraction in checking email zillions of times times a day and doing other unimportant chores.
And then get all anxious about the time they wasted on email and those unimportant things.
How do I know?
Well, you’re looking at one.
Who still “struggles” with this but is finding ways to work around it and waste less time in the process, increase productivity and be happier all around!
In my search for answers, a question that came to me was:
What if Procrastination was actually serving a purpose!? What if it’s not the big, evil habit we make it out to be?
This warranted some looking into. An interesting discussion followed. For the details, scroll back up and click the link to listen in. Thank you to the amazing people who were on the call and in the chat room, you made it fun!
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How To Manifest Almost Anything You Want
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life
How many knocks of a hammer does it take to break a rock?
The first few times it seems like nothing is happening. One hard blow after the other and all you can see is a chip here, a tiny crack there. With the 15th blow, the rock shatters. So was it the 15th knock that did it?
Or did ALL the 14 that led up to it, prime the rock for the 15th?
Why then, do you give up at the first sign of nothing happening?
Why do you go to the gym for a month and then give up cos you can’t see results? Or start a new website / business and give up after a few months? Or start practicing a new habit and let it slide after a few days.
What happened to commitment and sticking it out?
The Mighty Oak was once a seed.
A tree when planted takes ages to grow roots. Sometimes takes months for the first tree-bit to appear. We see the shoot and think “yay, now it’s growing”!
But the growth started with the planting of the seed. Maybe even before that – when you primed the land, fertilised it etc. You nurtured the seed with water, plant food, intentions and attention.
And after it had grown enough strong roots, it burst forth. Growth is now visible. It’s tangible.
That’s what happens to many of us. We ask for something, we affirm, afform, whatever keeps us in touch with that feeling of having it.
And a few days or weeks later we start losing hope and get discouraged.
Hang in there! Just cos you can’t see what’s happening behind the scenes, doesn’t mean it’s not. MOST of everything happens behind the scenes, priming for readiness.
Like the foundation of a house, your dreams and desires go through stages.
Lay the foundation by asking for what you want. Then layer it with faith, intentions, actions and habits that support it. You can’t ask for something and expect it to happen overnight (exception: if you’ve already done the work and are in alignment with what you want)
As this email I got from TUT said last night:
The real reason so many have trouble with baby steps, doing all they can, with what they’ve got, from where they are, no matter how humble or seemingly futile…
….. is because they haven’t yet grasped that the baby steps trigger unseen forces that throw wide the floodgates of unstoppable momentum, infinite abundance, and eternal life.
Just some tiny steps, that’s all that’s needed.
So remember, trust and have patience.
Babies take 9 months to be “created and born”, 12 months to walk. Every “struggle” they face along the way is but another step towards success. A butterfly must go through metamorphosis to emerge from its cocoon as a beautiful shimmering miracle.
As, sometimes, must you.
Your “work” is to be in alignment with what you’ve asked for.
Everyday, practice being who you need to be to get what you want. For example, if you’re manifesting a relationship, be who you would be in that relationship today – be happy, have fun, be active, do all the things you would do when you have a partner, NOW.
Don’t give up just as your efforts are about to be rewarded. And don’t lose motivation cos you can’t see, touch, feel or hear the intangible part of your desire.
Stay in the feeling place of your dreams coming true. That’s the most important part of manifesting what you want.
Keep The Faith!
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I’d love to hear your take on this. How long do you wait, what’s that point when you give up? And do you think we should give up sometimes or change what we want if we don’t get it? How do you stay focused on the baby steps and what you want when it’s a while coming?
What Would Make Water Stick On A Duck’s Back?
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life
Nothing, right?
Here’s a little story about how to Make Like a Duck and Let It Slide.
Story Starts:
Act I, Scene I
Our Lovely Heroine: Noooooooo! I can’t believe this just happened!
Onlookers (flash of deja-vu): What! What? Tell us!
Heroine (still looking rather lovely): For the last few days, every day I’ve had has had the potential to turn into a disaster. You know how all of last week I injured my right knee, ankle, toe, hip, wrist, and hand?
*audience gasps*
Glamorous Heroine (torn between continuing the current story or the injuries one): Well, I’d been craving a massage for months so yesterday, to treat my body after its rough week of knocks (clever!) I took myself off to this place I’d heard so much about.
I checked googlemaps, read directions on how to enter the building (tricky if you get to the wrong entrance) and left, figuring I’d get there 15 min early.
Woohoo!
It was 15 min past the scheduled hour when I finally climbed on that table.
Tired, hot, frustrated.
(I’ll spare you the drama of getting lost, walking in circles, muddled thinking…)
And I asked “Why is this happening to …” Oops, caught myself midway in that thought and focused on “It’s happened, now how do I want the rest of my experience to be?”.
Onlookers: That was quick, catching the thought mid-way!
H: Thanks! Continuing on: “What am I really mad about, what’s the real issue, here baby?”, I asked myself (I’m always nice to my inner tantrum thrower kid – she likes kindness).
Lack of value, was the answer. It wasn’t worth paying $90 for a 30 min massage! And to think I left home early, was going to be on ti.. oops, I did it again.
O (breathless): Wow, great 2nd catch H (notes to selves: great catch)!
H: I now had two choices:
- Whine and fret about it and ruin the rest of it – grrr that’s what I want!
Inner Voice: Really, that’s what you want? - Bring myself fully into the moment and enjoy what’s left of the time.
Inner Peace .. I mean voice: Oooh that sounds like good deliberate creation practice, okayyy I’ll play!
Easier said than done? For someone who’s always been conscious of what she spends and the value she gets… hmm, it was A Challenge.
To recap, the gap (I know, I can’t resist the cheeses :
- Where I was: I hate wasting money, I want value for my money, I can’t stop thinking about how stupid I was to have not remembered the cross street, I’ve been wanting this so long I can’t believe this is happening yada yada yada
- Where I wanted to be: I’m rich, I’m abundant. Yes, I’ve lost half my treatment time, but that’s ok. I’m going to enjoy the rest of the time I have left and it will be EVEN better than if I’d had an hour! Hey, it’s not a big deal, I’m human!
How did I close this gap? By acting as if I was already there. By saying, believing and imagining it.
I thought to myself, what would a millionaire do or think right now?
Now I’m quite sure my bank account still shows a few zeroes less but I was willing to play along; it was going to make me feel better, I surmised.
With some effort, I was able to put myself in soft, forgiving shoes and let it go with a “oh well, sometimes things just don’t happen the way we want, inspite of our best efforts”.
O: Ooooh we know what happened next! You enjoyed the massage and left feeling good!
H: Yes, but you know what’s been the BEST part of this all? Not that so much has been going “wrong” but that these incidents (including last week’s post) have showed me just HOW GOOD I’ve become at the follow-my-fun-and-feel-good game!
The fastest way to get there? Practice, practice, practice every moment you can! And thank all the icky things that happen in life for being your teachers, they love helping you learn.
Then prepare to be amazed by how your money/relationship/happy vibe rises and you start closing the gap from where you are to where you want to be.
(Emphasis): Listen up folks, the SOONER you let go of what’s not working (thoughts, beliefs, notions, pity parties, habits) the sooner you’ll get into alignment with what you want. Really, truly, verily.
End of Story or … The Beginning?
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*Applause*
Ps: I’d love to hear YOUR stories of how you made a conscious decision to let something flow off your back and turned your day around. Thanks in advance for sharing!
What Do You Make More Important Than… That Diamond Within?
“I wish I could be like you”, she said. “To just up and travel the world, have adventures and be free… but I can’t, I’ve got a career, husband, children, mortgage, standard of living I’m used to and I can’t give that up!”
“Keep writing about your adventures, I’m living vicariously through you”, said another friend.
“Oh if only I had more time … there aren’t enough hours in the day to do what I want. I’m so tired”, says a third.
Sample sentences I’ve heard over the years. The question isn’t if you have the time, money, energy or desire. It’s about what you make more important than that.
And whatever that is, is perfectly okay as long as you know that’s what you’re doing consciously.
What do you make more important than your time?
What do you make more important than your happiness?
What do you make more important than your dreams?
What do you make more important than LOVE for your fellow human bee-ing?
As coaches we are taught to ask ourselves “what am I making more important than serving my client” or “what am I allowing to stop me from acting with courage and calling someone forth”?
And the answers vary from looking good, to wanting to be liked, being seen as an expert, not wanting to make mistakes, not wanting to offend someone, keeping the status quo, being comfortable and so on.
And we learn that to step out of that comfort zone of fear (yep, it’s almost always some sort of fear), is a huge gift – for ourselves and for our clients.
It’s the SAME for you, no matter what work you do or what your life looks like.
How often are you willing to risk your relationship with people to get to a more truthful and intimate place? From openness and sharing comes a connection and level of understanding deeper than you may ever have experienced.
When you truly share yourself in vulnerable truth, you allow others to be more of who they are.
I’ve been thinking about these concepts a lot since I assisted my 2nd coaching course this weekend. There’s something truly magical about a room full of people who feel safe enough to drop their masks and really reach out to each other at a core, human level. To be seen as who they really, truly are – messy and beautiful all at once.
Oh my, can you imagine that!?
A world where we all operate from a space of love and authenticity instead of fear? Encouraging and supporting each other rather than protecting ourselves from each other?
We’ve all got that to some degree, I’m asking you to magnify it 10000 times and stretch it beyond your loved ones.
And to trust that whoever shows up will be loved and heard intimately, without judgement.
To be heard is one of our biggest “needs” in life. Just think for a moment – when you are in a conversation with someone, how much of it is you listening to them and how much is you forming a response to them before they’ve even stopped talking? Man I know I’m guilty of that.
Your presence (and that includes listening), is one of the most precious gifts you can give to anyone.
Today, what would happen if you reached out to someone close to you and really SAW them, HEARD them and EXPERIENCED them from a space of curiosity and openness?
No barriers, no judgement, just the core of them. What would happen?
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Go on, I invite you to be a part of this little experiment. Try it for a day, an hour. How did it impact your relationship with your mother, father , husband, wife, child, friend, boss, employee, banker, bus driver, tooth fairy, dog, cat, minister? I’d love to hear your experience, thanks in advance for sharing!
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