Reality Bites – So Create An Alternate Reality Already..

July 27, 2009 by Tia · 21 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction 

Focus♬♬ I’m livin’ in a parallel Universe. I’m creating a fresh modality… My new fantasy-reality… ♬♬

If I was a songwriter, I’d be hittin’ pay dirt right about nnnnow! All too often (read: everyday) we get caught up in the reality of our lives. How much of this sounds familiar to you?

  • I’m so frustrated with my life right now, nothing seems to be as I want!
  • I’m doing everything right, so why isn’t it happening yet?
  • This economy sucks, my work sucks, that’s why my life sucks
  • I’m sick of watching my investments dwindle and worried I’ll go broke
  • How come everyone else is getting engaged and married and not me?
  • I love what I do, I’m passionate about it so why aren’t I successful yet?
  • If only a, b, c thing would happen, I’d be happy..
  • I’m really happy, life is great, everything’s awesome, now if only ….

Get OFF the pity party merry-go-round, folks (said with firm love). You heard me. Tell me these thoughts aren’t what you think about day after day after day? Bears wondering then – if 95% of your thoughts are the SAME every day, how much of that is negative back-chattin’ glop (hint: 95% of 95%?)..

And how much of your time do you spend thinking about how GREAT you have it? Not that much ay? Thought so. Uh, I’m not letting myself off either, just as guilty of it as you, I can assure you. I’ll think “Hey, I’m doing a great job of staying focused on what I want, woohoo” and a few minutes later woops, I slip back. And so it goes,  all day long.

Sigh… even for super conscious LOA creators like you and me, it can get fuzzy to remember this...

The thing is, your happy successful version is already a reality. You don’t have to create amazing new manifestations before you count yourself as blessed. You already are.  And if you don’t think so, you just haven’t been practicing that version – Jeannette Maw, Supreme Conscious Creator and Adored Coach

It’s a known factoid that a new habit or thought needs to be practiced for 30 days in a ROW (some say 40) for it to stick and for changes to happen.

With this gem in hand I invite you to embark on a 30 day journey with me – pick one area of our life you would like to see changes in and start living an alternate reality today.

Choose which parts of your life (and reality) you want to shine the spotlight on. The part that is broke or that part that always makes it work no matter what? The part of you that thinks nothing is going right vs the part that KNOWS so much is happening perfectly? Same reality, different perspective.

Let’s start by stating the obvious. I’ll lead the way.. jump in at anytime ok?

Step 1: Old Reality/ Belief Statement: I can’t meditate for more than 5 minutes at a time cos it’s boring and difficult and I lose concentration. (Choose anything you want to see a change in – relationships, money, career etc)

Step 2: New Reality/ Belief Statement: Meditating is like second nature to me. So relaxing, rejuvenating and totally sets the tone for my day – it’s the best way to wake up to the World and I look forward to the peace it brings me!

Step 3: Pick your ritual: Me, I like looking into the mirror for a few minutes a day and doing my Worthies (a list of I am worthy statements, thanks Kim!). I also tell me what I like about myself, spend a few minutes feeling how I would feel then etc. I’d say Self-Love is the FIRST step to manifesting anything, ie, believing you deserve what you want. ps: for more ideas check out Jeannette’s Self Love Rocks Workbook and Audios.

Step 4: Do what feels good: Every day, make it a point to do what feels GOOD to you. If you’re worrying about something, ask yourself what would feel good right now and go do it. I’ve done this countless times to great results – peace of mind, a situation resolving itself, magical happenstances etc. Oooooooh FUN! Check out some fun ways to manage your vibe here.

Step 5: Journal: Write down your new reality on a piece of paper. Now write down all the reasons it would suck to have that come true. Surprised? Don’t be! Through this writing process, a few limiting beliefs may pop up that you may not have known existed! Once out there, you can do Byron Katie’s work on it or Psych-K or EFT (or anything else) it.

Step 6: Trust the Process: Your ONLY job is to feel good and TRUST the process. Know that it takes 30-40 days of practicing a few minutes a day to make your new belief a reality. If it doesn’t work for you, feel free to say this stinks and never do it again. But for 30 days, be fully committed to the process. Whatya got to lose?

Step 7: Allow, Allow, Allow an Attitude of Gratitude: If something’s been blocking this manifestation, step 5 should have helped uncover it. Keep repeating that step if needed. Then, go about your merry way and appreciate everything in your life with the eyes of a child – fresh, exciting and new.

Ps: Check out this article by Steve Pavlina on 30 days to success for more ideas and to read about his experience!

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Ready to state your old belief and the new one you’re taking on for the next 30 days? Fire away in the comments section and share your best technique if so inspired. Thanks for your contribution, I’m excited to read what you’re cookin’ up!

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Every New Beginning Comes From Some Other Beginning’s End!

July 18, 2009 by Tia · 6 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Forgiveness, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life 

Healing, Feeling, BelievingOkkkkk something strange and wonderful is going on! Have you noticed how the last month has been huge in terms of manifestations, realisations, movement and change? Got 3 words for you.

Healing

Feeling

Believing

Ever get to that place of absolute peace and non-attachment in your life? I can promise you it is a surreal, beautiful, sublime place to be! And once here, you will just want to stay and stay and stay…

2009 is a year of opportunities and deep spiritual changes – I feel it on a daily basis and the signs are getting louder, more insistent and clearer by the day. Many of you are feeling this way too, right?

HEALING: This is a powerful time for healing all past wounds, feeling them through and letting go. And believing in your ability to create the life you want. Attracting all that is in alignment with you. A time for powerful, QUICK manifestations.

If you’ve been in transition or feeling stuck, now is the time for you to help the process along. Start by purging and letting go of the old – anything from your past that is keeping you attached to it, that creates nostalgia that won’t let you move on. From thoughts to regrets to objects to locations to homes to people.. you get my drift..

FEELING: Physical objects have residual energy in them from when you were in a certain experience. And it’s only by letting them go that you can clear the energy around your current space and be fully present and IN it.

That’s what spring cleaning is all about hey? Clear that murked up energy, get some flow going. Show the Universe (and yourself) that you are not holding on anymore, that you are ready, willing and able to receive that which you want.

Keep the memories if you want, but let go of the physical representations. No baggage. Travel light!

After holding onto cards, letters and little gifts from old relationships, today was the day it all felt ready to be released. I took out the memorabilia, read and held ‘em, thanked the love that was in my life and let go.

Burned, cut up, gave away all that I was holding onto. Now I wish I could fly to India and bugger the trunk full of stuff (collected over 20 years) in my mom’s garage, LOL. Oh well, at least the space around ME is clear ;)

It’s freakin awesome to feel so light and free! I usually do this ritual with old clothes, papers etc every January 1st.

BELIEVING: Know that by doing this, you will have honoured the part this relationship/career/home/thing played in your life and be grateful for the experience. Goodie for you that you have no need to keep proof of it anymore. If anything, this will make you feel even more loving and gracious towards yourself (YAY, Self love!).

Be fully available and open to your present, and future. To the wonderful things you are manifesting and inviting into your life. Say “I Believe, I know and trust that I am getting exactly what I want” and BELIEVE it.

No one says it better than Canadian Legend Leonard Cohen (what a man!):
“Every New Beginning Comes From Some Other Beginning’s End”

So I say to you, yes you. Let go, today. Be brave. You are not ending a part of your life, you are opening up to the rest of it. Nothing that has happened is good or bad, the river ebbs and flows all day long, as do you. I’m off to find more stuff to get rid off :D

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So Popeye, what are you holding onto that is keeping you stuck in the past (it is, even if you don’t realise it)? What are you ready to let go of and TRUST that it will be replaced with something better? What are you REALLY ready to invite into your life? Thanks in advance for sharing your insights, I love reading them and learning from them!

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On Forgiveness and Letting Go of Anger and Hurt..

July 15, 2009 by Tia · 17 Comments
Filed under: Forgiveness, Intention, Life 

Forgiveness, A choice and a DecisionJust recently, I’ve had the amazing opportunity to review Kristin Robertson’s e-book “A Forgiveness Journal” wherein she talks about her journey from anger to forgiveness in the face of “betrayals and abandonment”.

And how forgiveness changed her life for the better, as it can yours.

I was particularly struck by “Forgiveness is like letting yourself out of a prison”.

Indeed, when you can’t forgive someone, guess who suffers? Often, the other person’s moved on, while days, months and sometime, even years later, you’re still carrying the burden.

Sound familiar at all? This was definitely true for me till a few years ago!

Another point she makes is that holding grudges can also make you physically sick.

I’m thinking back to one of my mentors and how she developed (and subsequently cured herself of) breast cancer TWICE in her life.

Each time, it was the result of anger and unexpressed feelings she harboured around the 2 main men in her life (death of her brother and the end of a major love relationship) and forgiveness / self healing played a big part in her recovery.

So WHY forgive and how can one get to the point of peace? The main points (and challenges) have been described early on:

  • Forgiveness is not an easy path to choose
  • You develop the ability to forgive at your own pace
  • Forgiveness is a decision and a process (you can CHOOSE to forgive – sense the freedom in that?)
  • The cost of not forgiving is compromised health, unhappiness, and an attachment to the past
  • The path to happiness is forgiveness (Boy, can I ever relate to this one! The hardest part for me has been letting go of my righteous anger in the past. And the subconscious desire to play victim.. )

This isn’t just another book on forgiveness; it’s a 7 step process using exercises and journaling  to help you work through this healing process.

1) Identify Your Feelings - What are you really feeling? Anger is the expression of other feelings like betrayal, abandonment, fear, frustration, resentment, guilt, anxiety, unworthiness etc that lie beneath. A sign that your basic needs like integrity, safety, security, love and acceptance are not being met. Acknowledge these feelings.

2) Talk it Out - Next, you need to talk about these feelings to help process them (there’s an exercise in the journal you can use to share your story). The best part? She advocates sharing your story no more than three times, after that it’s time to move on. Excellent advice borrowed from Native American traditions.

3) Change Your Viewpoint - Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. In some cases this may be extremely hard so a lot of patience and time may be required. Look at any part you may have played in the situation and be watchful of mind self-pity, anger, revenge, and victim thinking.

4) Gain Perspective - This step is especially helpful to those who need to forgive themselves for past actions that they regret. At this stage of the process, the heart chakra represents the transition from ego-based energy centers in the human body to spirit-based energy centers.

5) Let Go - You might be clinging to several reasons not to let go. For example, perhaps you are receiving sympathy from others when you talk about your pain or have tied your self-image and self-worth to being the victim in your grievance story. In other words, what are the payoffs keeping you stuck?

Reminds me of a story my dad told me about 2 monks who’d taken the vow of celibacy and were at a river bank when they saw a young woman struggling to cross.

Without a word, one of the monks lifted her in his arms and crossed the river, putting her down on the other side. The 2nd monk was silent for the next 5 miles and then couldn’t stop himself any longer.

“Why did you touch her?!”, he cried out. “We’re not supposed to look at or touch women!”. Said the 1st monk “My friend, I put her down 5 miles ago, you’re the one who is still carrying her in your mind..”

6) Take Action – The previous step was about clearing the energy around your hurt and anger. This next step is about deciding if any action needs to be taken – eg: a letter to be written, talk to be had. Whatever you feel is needed to truly let go and move on.

7) Bless the Other - Possibly the hardest of all. You may be thinking “I’m no Mother Teresa, I can forgive but I can’t wish them well”. And yet, you can. One day. If you choose.

Completing this step will give you the biggest gift you could get – freedom and peace of mind. The book ends with a healing prayer of peace and more exercises to help you process your feelings.  _________________________________________________________________________

What questions do you have around forgiveness? Kristin will be visiting the blog for the next couple of days to answer and share her insights / experiences. I’ve got a question from one of you for her: How can one get past being betrayed or abandoned especially if these are childhood wounds being triggered? Thank you!

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It came, but not how I expected…

July 3, 2009 by Tia · 20 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Intention, Law of Attraction 

Manifest MiraclesEver have that happen to you? You set an intention and focused on it, felt it, knew it, vibed it and sent it out to the Universe.

Not long after, you got it but it wasn’t quite what you asked for and it didn’t happen the way you thought it would.

In fact, it was EVEN BETTER!! And you could not have foreseen that happening even in your dreams, because no matter how great a visualiser and manifestor you are, you have no way of knowing the millions of miraculous ways something can come to you.

As a real life example – remember that contest I entered and then un-entered last month? Soon after, I got an email from someone saying “Hi, we just posted an article 100 Best Life and Career Coach Blogs and I am happy to let you know that your site has been included in this list.”

You could’ve knocked me over with a feather.

Who, where, what was that again? I moseyed on over and found myself listed at # 3 a mere two spots after Tony Robbins on this list of Top 100 Coaching Blogs. Ok, I know this is a random list someone made up but it means even more to me that I was included because I hadn’t asked for it!

And yet … ah you see where this is going, don’t you  ..  when it struck me I was so stoked … I got what I wanted even though it wasn’t what I asked for.

What I really wanted was to create a fabulous blog about real life conscious creation, inspired action and LOA experiences, credibility as an awesome coaching blog..

more incredible creators engaging in discussions on the posts and sharing their wisdom with a larger pool of interested readers..

a place for people who want to attract the life of their dreams to visit and contribute, for them to be able to find me easily..

What I asked for was to win this contest. What I got, was exactly what I wanted (and vibrated) and in a way that I totally didn’t expect or imagine.

You get what you want, not necessarily what you ask for cos it’s in the wanting that our true desires, beliefs and vibration lie. As I tweeted to a friend who congratulated me:

“Thanks, I love how I get rewarded for putting in the effort and intent even if the initial effort was elsewhere!”

How fabulous is that!? A great reminder that if you keep your intention solid and don’t stay attached to the when’s and how’s of how it manifests, you’ll be in for the best surprises ever.

You WILL get what you want if you stay open to the form it takes.

More examples:

  • When I wanted fridays off from work and ended up being laid off within a week of  manifesting it (yay! cos that’s when coaching found me!)
  • When I manifested $60,000 for a house deposit within 2 years but it turns out it was so that I could follow my path without having to worry about money
  • When I wanted a network of supportive, awesome friends and peers around me and found them on twitter..
  • Or how about that time I asked for a parking spot outside a hospital 2 min from work and got one even closer cos what I really wanted was to be on time?
  • Or the time I asked for a flatmate but really wanted to be alone and 2 potential flatmates didn’t work out till I was ready to take one in and then got the PERFECT one? The list is endless!

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And you? What amazing experiences have you had where you asked for something and saw it manifest but in a different, unexpected way and then realised it was what you wanted all along? What did that lead to that wouldn’t have happened otherwise? Thank you in advance for sharing!

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