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When Life Throws you a (few) Curve Ball(s) – How to Stay on Top?
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction
Wow, it’s been a crazy week all around. With Summer Solstice ending on June 24th, the big changes and healings promised have started to show up. It’s not even the matter of 2 celeb deaths (Michael Jackson & Farrah Fawcett) in one day, it’s not even the unrest in Iran, it’s not even the high # of angry drivers and car wrecks or the ends of many relationships, friendships, careers and lives.
It’s all of them and then some. I don’t know about you but to me it seems to go further. There’s a strange sort of vibe going around, a universal awakening of sorts and I can see it in many, many people’s lives all over the world. All at once it would seem!
Mostly, I see us looking through the chaos, and finding a clarity and strength that wasn’t as visible before. It’s a time for reflection, a time for endings, a time for patience and trust and the start of exciting, brand new beginnings. Oh and growth – spiritual, emotional, mental. Stretchy, scary and exhilerating!
I’m guessing many of you will have started seeing some signs of manifestations by now.
And I’d be willing to bet my last dollar (uh oh should I be putting this out there?) that for some of you, they may not look like what you thought, eg: you wanted to manifest a beautiful relationship and the one you’re in ends, leaving you hurt and frustrated. Or you thought you’d found the perfect job for you and now you’re unhappier than before and can’t figure out why.
Here’s the kicker - THIS is the manifestation! Your strong intention for the relationship or job of your dreams means that anyone or anything that’s not in alignment with it simply has to go whether you like it or not. Tack it down to how powerful your intention was (thanks for that, Kim)
And due to Summer Solstice energy, this can often happen in sudden, unexpected ways so don’t be surprised if you find yourself acting in ways you normally wouldn’t, because this. is. good. news.
Good news you ask? How so? Simply because it’s your higher consciousness giving you the extra push needed to get to the other side. The push which you may have resisted to avoid feeling loss, fear and pain if left to your own devices.
How lucky for you that your superconscious mind knows what you want and will use its power to get you there as long as you have been clear about your true desires 
It’s great to have divine help but I applaud your courage to trust the process, feel the fear and follow your path inspite of it. You rock!
Some of you have asked, how do you stay with the process and keep trusting when everything seems to be falling apart? Rest assured, time takes time but in the meanwhile, what you’ll find very helpful during this time of renewal and re-emergence is to:
- make peace with what is, you don’t have to like it but do acknowledge it
- feel, feel, feel through your emotions, don’t hold back
- talk/write about the things you have with appreciation
- continue to be grateful for all that is in your vibrational escrow and ready to appear in your physical world
- stay focused on what you want, affirm it daily
- keep blame and guilt to a minimum, not serving you!
- drink lots of water to hydrate & flush out toxic energies
- reach for a better feeling place one thought at a time
- practice extreme self love, forgiveness and gentleness towards yourself and others
- reach out for support – friends, books, meditation, blogs like this etc
- detach from the outcome and the process of wanting the manifestation to happen in a certain way – you have NO idea how wonderfully it is being orchestrated behing the scenes and by being attached to it happening your way, you’ll just block this universal magique (gosh how I love that word, can you tell!)
In fact, as Coach Sara Exley shared brilliantly, Attachment is giving your power away. It’s making something else responsible for your level of trust, relaxation, joy. Attachment is the energy that says “When I receive it, I’ll relax.” The energy of Allowing says, “Now that I’m relaxed, I’m receiving it!”
The reason attachment doesn’t feel so great is because the “Source” part of you knows that YOU are the power that makes the outcome, not the other way around. It’s not that attachment is “bad” or “wrong.” It’s just that the higher part of us knows that Allowing feels so much better.
How eye-opening and exciting is THAT!? Do remember, any time you blame anyone or anything for what is happening in your life, you are giving away all your power and peace of mind. If there is a hell on Earth, living as a victim with feelings of anger and blame defines it. If there is a heaven on Earth, living powerfully and lovingly as creator of our own lives defines it (Susan Jeffers).
Hang on, there’s more. It’s REALLY important to listen and watch carefully for those little nudges and intuitive spurts that seem to come from nowhere.
Take Inspired Action, follow those impulses and look for signs that affirm you’re on the right path. I get about 5-10 signs a day (up from 1-2 a week) and it’s re-assuring and gives me faith that all is indeed more than well.
At this very moment open yourself up to immense possibilities and trust that the immediate picture may be contributing to your larger journey in more ways than you can currently imagine. Trust that everything is happening in your best interest. AND IT IS!! Always.
Your manifestations are closer than you think. Rejoice in the juiciness of that delicious statement.
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What’s been your experience over the past week? Have you seen signs of land? Or the rug being pulled away from under your feet? I’ve had them so I’d love to hear from you! Any other thoughts or experiences you’d like to talk about? Thanks in advance for sharing!
Summer Solstice Intentions – Bring on Clarity and Intent, Baby!
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life, Passion
Today is June 21st, the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere, also affectionately known as the Summer Solstice. I have it on GOOD authority from my favorite astrologer friend Kim Falconer and twitter friend Sophie (also mentioned in previous post) that anything you intend and create today and till June 24th is very powerful and will manifest within 6 months.
And when I felt a sudden bout of authenticity coursing through my senses 3 days ago and was compelled to talk about it here as well as on another forum I’m part of, it came along with the Mother Of All Headaches and wiped me out so completely that I couldn’t even move from my bed till past noon yesterday.
Now, I have 2-3 headaches a YEAR, and mostly when I’m sick so this was very unusual. At the same time my friend Kathy sent me a link to Sophie’s website and it all started making sense. Here’s what I read:
The December 08 winter solstice was unsettlingly powerful and kicked the cosmic doors open even more so than the consciousness upgrades of the previous 6 years. And now this coming Summer Solstice is pushing us beyond what most of us can comfortably accommodate!
Physically, it can be a little uncomfortable: from a tingly sensation, to heaviness in the head and neck, which could turn to a full blown headache. Vivid dreams, sometimes disturbing.
“Holy Moly!”, I thought. Here’s an explanation that makes my senses tingle. There’s no question about it, my dreams were incredibly vivid and I had developed a sudden pain under my right shoulder blade which made no sense at all. I went to bed with the aches and pains and knew when I woke up things were going to be very different and my body would feel great.
Haazaah! Bouncing out of bed this morning I felt so ALIVE and one with this world that you could see my cells dancing around with sheer abandon and pleasure and happiness washing over me like ocean waves …. It was so intense and joyous a feeling that I just HAD to tweet:
You know what the best part is? It’s not just me. I’ve had many friends tweet and talk about how things are stirring up for them and lots of healing seems to be happening around old, past issues – ALL in the past week.
This is a good time to forget, forgive and heal those parts of you that need your love and compassion. Anytime is a good time for that but I’m not averse to a little cosmic help to move things along.
So with that in mind, here are my intentions:
I live my life with passion and courage, vulnerability and authenticity.
I show up every day in every way – what you see is what you get.
I trust and know that I am provided for in nurturing, exciting ways.
I love and inspire myself and everyone who enters my consciousness.
I am a true leader, who walks along the same path as you.
I am a money magnet attracting $ easily and in big sums. BIG.
I am ridiculously happy and content, my dream life is my real life.
I am classy and graceful in all my interactions with people.
MORE goodies!!
Love having my fabulous friends over to BBQ’s at my gorgeous new 5BR home
Fabulous relationship with most amazing guy I ever met who rocks my world <3
Effortless 6 figure income that flows to me for 15 hours of “work” a week $$
Friends, family, loved ones around me, level of intimacy & connection is DIVINE!
And many, many more but I’ll save some space for you – so come join me ~
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It’s YOUR turn! What are you going to focus on and intend come true in the next 3 days? Say it out loud, write it down, infuse it with love and energy, and know, know, KNOW it will and is happenening.
Where Do You Draw The Line between Ego and Self?
Authenticity. Authenticity.
Also known as showing up fully.
This past month I’ve been living from ego rather than service. I let my authentic self be tarnished by feelings of competitiveness, living at 50% of myself, ignoring my values and not being fully present, real or honest with myself and others about my feelings and thoughts.
Nothing “bad” mind you – just restrictions everywhere I looked around. Life in this state is far from pure, joyous and happy. It can still be good but good isn’t enough for me anymore.
Who else feels they are sick of not expressing themselves fully?
Who else wants to shed their scales & emerge as they are?
Who else would like to live courageously & with integrity?
I for one am DONE with living an unauthentic life. With holding myself back for fear that I’ll be alone if no one wants to walk this path with me. With conforming and trying to look good (although those of you who know me may be giggling at the thought of me being a conformist hehe).
Since the last 2 days a lot has been stirring up for me (I learnt from Lynn Koiner and Sophie Lhoste that I’m not alone in this – apparently this summer solstice is a powerful time for changes and divine happenings – woohoo!) and I’m taking gulpy, brave steps to bring myself back from the edge of an ego-driven life, back to service, back to self.
Take the coaching competition I was entered in for instance. It all started as fun and games, asking people to vote for me, getting the word out about my blog, loving the traffic to my website, the supportive comments (esp the one from my mom – that rocked, thanks mum!) ·
Somewhere along the way though, I realised some uncoachlike behaviour was going on and allowed myself to be upset by the tricks other people were using to get to # 1. Everytime I saw people being voted down I would vote them up. And I’d wonder what I was doing in such a contest. Can you guess what happened next? Yep!
I wanted to play them at their own game. Survival of the best-est. And I didn’t like this feeling. That’s not me.
So yeah, it got to the point where I had to stop and question myself …. Why do I need someone to tell me my blog is the best? Would winning this contest make more people like me or make me special in some way? WHO gets to decide I’m the best (or not)? I’ve never liked competitions and in my LOA world, co-operation is a better feel-good place to be in over competition.
To compete fairly and test skills against another is beautiful, like athletes in their finest form. Because it brings the best out in others, rather than the worst. To bring others down while you go up? Not sooooooo much!
It started to not feel good anymore. And you who read this blog know this about me – I always follow my feel-good! If it’s not fun, I’m not doing it. I slacked in following my intuition. Ohh Bugggerr…
It’s scary and empowering to go out on a limb and saying what you need to, without fear of consequences. It’s easy for monkeys but to be a human hanging on the top of a branch, swinging wildly and suddenly letting go….!? Bump, rumble and roll. Ouch. That hurt. Pain sucks. Yet, letting go can teach you to look for where the growth and learning is.
To be authentic, I first had to acknowledge what I’ve not been wanting to, face my frailties and imperfections, embrace them, forgive them, love them and finally, share them with others.
So my friends, In all my ego driven glory, here I stand unveiled. And as I ask myself these questions, I ask you too:
Who do you think you are to live half a life?
One that’s not passionate, fulfilling, authentic and happy?
Where do you get off blaming other people?
What are you not taking responsibility for?
What is the learning from this?
What do you really, really want?
The glory or the peace? True happiness or ego-driven accolades?
Feel free to ask me “who are you to get me to stand up and take charge of my own life”!? I am no-one. And I am everyone. You get to choose if you want to or not.
With this in mind, I decided that what felt good and authentic was to remove myself from this contest. My intuition says this is the right thing to do and this is the month I start trusting it. The little voice in my head saying “but you could win this and be more popular” can just go take a hike. Be sure to take a camel along, it’s a long trip where you’re going!
THANK YOU to all of you who voted me to # 1 – I’ve saved all your comments I am still glad I entered this contest for I know even more now that my worth does not depend on what someone says or thinks about me.
It depends on what I believe to be true. It’s reminded me AGAIN that real happiness and peace come from being true to oneself, and true to others. It showed me how many amazing friends and loyal readers I have. It re-inforced the power of synergy (where my friends and I voted for each other as opposed to taking each other down).
It helped me be kind and loving to myself and accept my imperfections. And my desire for you is to do the same for yourself.
I want you to live your best life ever. I want you to unleash your awesomeness on the world, warts and all.
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You can start by sharing your thoughts and feelings about how you want to show up MORE in your life in the comments section. I am here to listen, encourage and love you AS YOU ARE. You rock my friend
Expectations – Mother of All Muck-ups or Vital Ingredient of Life?
A late night tweet from me saying “Happiness is yours when you learn to manage your expectations from/of others and make it a preference instead of a need” brought on a flurry of retweets and replies from people.
As it turns out, I’m not alone when it comes to expecting things and being disappointed when I don’t get what I want. Astonishing, isn’t it 
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Anyone who’s ever felt the same way, wiggle your pinkie finger now!
Hm, why do I KNOW you’d just as easily as me lay a wager on our expectations being the root cause of most unhappiness? Feel free to say it isn’t so if I’m being presumptuous.
In my experience, there are various types of expectations – from expecting love, respect, dignity, and justice, to expecting people to do certain things for you whether they like it or not, treat you like a prince/princess, spend more time with you than their friends, come home on time, buy you gifts, etc.
But here’s the thing. I’m not saying any of these are good or bad.
They just are what they are and will affect your mojo as much as you let them.
It’s when some expectations start affecting the quality of your daily life experiences and relationships and lead to disappointment, anger, insecurity, fear, grief, frustration, doubt and worry, that you might want to step back and ask yourself a few questions. If you don’t want to spend a lot of time in the cesspool of blame and disappointment, that is.
Questions that might go somewhat like:
- Am I expecting too much from others?
- WHY do I need that (from them)?
- What am I asking others for that I’m not giving to myself?
- What do I really want that’s behind these wants? I.e, do I want to be heard, loved, seen, respected, nurtured, validated?
- Recognise the desire beneath the want. Then decide if it’s a non-negotiable or a whim.
What next? How can you go about learning to *manage* your expectations (and should you even do that?).
Call it acknowledging, changing, reframing, or anything you like but know that you create your reality and can choose to expect with attachment or detachment – that will be a big factor in how you ultimately experience it.
And while we’re at it,
Realise that no matter who you are, NO one owes you anything.
Yes, it’s bloody fantastic when people meet our expectations, just be aware that it won’t happen all the time and neither is that healthy. If you always got what you wanted, then what about others’ wants that might clash with yours? And where would your learning come from?
Make it a preference instead of a need.
Preference = unattached to outcome. Need = attached to outcome.
When there is a preference you would like something to be a certain way but regardless, your happiness doesn’t depend on it.
When you *need* something, you’re creating and focusing on the lack around you and letting it control your happy button.
Us humans will always have wants, needs, desires and expectations, some of which will come to fruition and some that won’t. If the ultimate goal is happiness, then consider this as one more tool to help you along the way.
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What role do expectations play in YOUR life? Was there a time you successfully changed an expectation that was keeping you stuck and what was the result? Looking forward to hearing your insights and experiences!
Detox Your Body, Thoughts and Life
“I’ve never dieted in my life, I don’t believe in detoxes!”
This was me up until 4 days ago. A whole new world has opened up since. New foods that
I’d never heard of (yummm almond butter! Great substitute for my Nutella addiction , salads I’d never made, an eating plan I’d never followed.
You mean people actually eat 3-6 meals a day? I was the brekkie at noon kinda girl (and I still may well be after the detox, but in a healthier, more aware of what I’m eating kinda way).
You know that moment in time when you realise something you’ve always known and heard about and believed at some level but it never really sank in until then? The one that makes you smack your forehead and go “I get it”?!
Yep. Yeah, that’s the one I had this morning as I bounced out of bed with an energy I haven’t felt in yonks i.e., a very long time. My 4th day of ridding my body of toxins. It’s a “wow, this feels so great I can’t believe I waited so many years to start being healthy” mindset.
Have you noticed how your mind and inner being feel so much lighter when you’re healthier? What you put into your body and mind is what you get out of it. Squeeze the proverbial orange and you won’t get apple juice … y’know how that story goes.
But luckily, there isn’t just one way to do it. You can start with detoxing your thoughts and beliefs and let the ripple effects cascade into your life. Consciously choosing better feeling thoughts will give you more positivity, focus and gusto and this in turn will lead to you feeling more energetic.
Change what goes into your body to change what goes into your mind or vice-versa. Either ways, you win!
Fact is, most of what you eat, do, say, think, feel is a result of habitual patterns. You are living an unconscious life when you don’t take a minute to stop and ask what and why you’re eating, doing, saying, thinking and feeling what you are. How many unhealthy habits do you persist with because you have gotten too lazy, too careless, too comfortable with them?
I know, let’s start with thoughts! Do you know how many thoughts you have in a day? Anywhere from 20,000 – 60,000 apparently. And about 80% of that self-talk is “negative” (source: some scientific research I lost the link to).
Sound like an exaggeration? Consider this: within the span of a few seconds your mental chattering monkey jumps from “Wish I had my coffee” to “I’m sick of this traffic” to “I should have done/said/ xyz” to “Why can’t I just stop thinking so much” to “I hope we’re not having soup for dinner again”. Exhausting, isn’t it?
Truth be told, much of what you believe and think every day comes from societal and parental conditioning. But wait, there’s hope! Just like you can learn to think about the food you eat and what it does for your body, you can also start learning how to think in positive, inspiring ways. That’s right, this is how you can change your self-limiting beliefs to those that serve you.
Here’s the deal. Detoxing the way you think can be hard at first. Just like when you train your body to get rid of toxins and cravings, and don’t build muscles overnight in a gym, it’s the same with your thoughts. Of course it takes a bit of effort and commitment to see results.
Want some tips to help you start rewriting your ‘story’ & detoxify your thoughts?
1) Practice Awareness daily - keep a little journal or notebook close at hand and as you think a thought, write it down. At the end of the day you’ll have a fair idea of just how much of your thinking is toxic and unproductive.
2) Start examining these thoughts – are they pointing to a deep rooted belief? What is that belief? Is it true? Or are you just used to thinking a certain way?
3) Open Your Mind - to new ways of thinking. Look at things and situations from more than one perspective. You don’t have to agree with another point of view but you’ll be training yourself to be curious and open to changing your beliefs.
I’m curious – does detoxing your body and then your mind work better for you or do you find you have to change the way you think to get healthier 1st? I’d love to know what works for YOU!
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