Are You Trying Too Hard?

May 26, 2009 by Tia · 16 Comments
Filed under: Inspired Action, Life, life coaching 

To get it right?Trying Too Hard
To be perfect?
To win?
To do what you think you should do, so that things work out they way you think they should?

I have been. All month!

This was the month I was going to write my fabulous articles about money and our beliefs around them. When I was going to inspire many people to look into their beliefs, challenge them and help them change their money relationship. When I was going to power through and blow all obstacles out of the water!

I tried. I wrote a few drafts, I thought about the best way to write it etc.

And guess what? Nothing! No inspiration, no words flowing, nada.

Flavour of the month.. didn’t do what I said I would, my ezine was 2 days late, I didn’t go to the gym for 3 weeks, I’m feeling guilty about wasting money, not eating right etc. Pile it ON!

By resisting these feelings I was only making it worse. It took reading a blog post by my adopted (by me) mentor and most amazing friend Ms Maw to wake me up to what I’ve been doing.

Fighting the natural order of things, the way I am and trying to change too much too fast and expecting it to be perfect.

Now one might say there’s nothing wrong about expecting change to be perfect and one might agree but one might also have to be aligned with that feeling ;) Hello, I forgot that caterpillars have to wriggle their way of of their cocoon to turn into butterflies .. it can get a little uncomfortable at times I’m guessing.

When we feel resistance to not doing our best, that makes some of us not do our best .. actually it makes some of us not do anything at all! Until we feel guilty and do something totally uninspired.

For me, this month has been uninspiring in terms of writing blog posts – so I re-purposed 2 articles/ezine issues into posts. They turned out to be the ones with the least comments or engagement so far. The Universe sensed the energy it was done with, much?

  • So from not ever working out to going to the gym 4-5 times a week for a month = too much of a change for me to handle, hence 0 visits the 2nd month.
  • From writing hardly any blog posts to promising to write a great one that would change your life = setting myself up for failure.
  • From never joining contests to even caring about them to  joining a Best Coaching Blogs contest and wanting to win = I’m not good enough if I don’t. Being first means I’m the BEST, darn it! And BEST = Perfect!

I still want to win but it’s not *that* important anymore. Phew! Guess I’m not always going to be the best … get it right or be perfect or win or only do what feels good ay ;) . Now how did I forget that? Ahh that’s right, cos I Was TRYING TOO HARD! You know what I’m talking about, don’t you.

Giving Up Resistance ~

So I’m relinquishing the fight as well. I give up expecting myself to know it all, have it all and look like I do. I give up the urge to tell myself I have too much to do and instead appreciate how much I’ve done!

And I know that when I write the Money and Beliefs post it will happen when the timing is perfect and will probably help more people when I do write it than if I did it last week. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

I let go of my resistance to go the gym and stop sponsoring them thanks to my lack of usage. They’re nice people, they deserve my money! So, Gym people, you’re welcome to my $70 for May and I hope you spend it on lattes and ice-creams in this gorgeous weather.

I love how Inspired Action shows up when I’m least expecting it! From not being able to write for 2 weeks to banging out this post within minutes. That’s my feel good and that’s how I’ll always do it. Yeah!

This already feels lighter. I’m off to eat some Horlicks out of the jar (wld’ve been Nutella but I ran out). This giving up resistance thing feels good.

What do YOU do when you find yourself trying too hard?

ps: to vote for me go to the “Best Coaching Blogs” icon top right corner. Thanks for the vote!

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Your 3 Most Pressing Questions About Inspired Action answered

May 25, 2009 by Tia · 1 Comment
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction, life coaching 

What Does Inspired Action Look Like?Take Inspired Action!

Someone asked this question recently: “What exactly IS Inspired Action and how do I know the action I’m taking is inspired or not? I often hesitate to take action that doesn’t seem to be inspired action to me. So how does it feel to you?”

The short answer is: If it feels good, it’s probably inspired action.

Sometimes inspired action feels like a force you can’t ignore, that literally moves you to a certain action even if it doesn’t make sense to you.

So when you find yourself suddenly taking a different route to work, or stopping by the grocery store even when you don’t need anything, it’s likely an intuitive sense that’s guiding you to take that action.

Sometimes it feels like a little voice in your head that says “bake a cake” or “call a friend”. It does not have to hit you like a hammer, it can often be very subtle, like a butterfly’s whisper on your cheek. A feeling in your body. Heightened senses.

So don’t worry if it doesn’t feel like it “should” because it can be different every time. Find out what speaks to you. Tune into your intuition. And take it from there.

If you’re still struggling with how it should feel, you’re probably trying too hard.

When Do I Take Inspired Action? Now you might ask “if nothing feels good in that moment, do I just sit there and twiddle my thumbs while I wait for inspiration?”

You know what? Sometimes taking small action – like getting up and going for a walk can actually change the vibration you’re in and lead to Inspired Action.

Ask “what would feel better than this” and you WILL find something that feels a little better. Keep doing what feels a little better each time and soon you’ll be doing what feels good.

Do anything that changes your current physical and mental space. UNLESS of course feeling good at that moment means doing nothing but lying down or napping etc. That works well too!

You do know that if you’re doing something that doesn’t make you feel good because you think you should, or because that’s what other people do, you’ll just block yourself from source energy right?

What feels good to others may not feel good to you and vice-versa. Just be careful about making excuses for not doing something!

How Does It Feel? Does Inspired Action always feel good or can it feel nervous and anxious?

From my experience, it almost always feels good. Good can mean calm or exciting, a solid knowing or a gut feel, there are no rules here except for it just feels right somehow. The anxiety could be partly fear .. which can be a natural part of starting something new, all those feelings of will it work, how will I do this etc.

As long as it’s not stopping you from taking action, don’t give those feelings any energy. Unless you sense it’s your intuition speaking strongly to you, in which case, follow that feeling.

Oh and sometimes, Inspired Action looks like taking NO action at all ;)

Does this bring up any questions for you? How do you know when YOU are taking inspired action? I’d love to hear your thoughts below.

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6 Steps to Release Attachment and Manifest Your Desires Faster

May 17, 2009 by Tia · 4 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, life coaching 

On the topic of LOA … you already know how important it is to let go of any sort of neediness, Attachment Graspingdesperation or attachment to manifesting your desires once you’ve set an Intention to attract them. Right?

But sometimes as you ALSO probably well know, it’s hard! When you really want that vacation, a raise, a new relationship, new clients, more time, a successful business, how do you let go of the attachment to the outcome?

1) Turn it over to the Universe

Write a list and get the Universe on the job. Throw a tantrum if you have to like I did last week! I told off the Universe for not doing the job, wrote a list of what I wanted, stuck it on the wall and said “All yours Universe, time for you to Step Up to the Plate thanks!”

2) Check your receiving radar

The Universe often delivers pretty soon after a demand like that! If you find yourself still sabotaging what you want, or if you get part of it but not all, sit down as ask yourself “am I really ready to receive”? There could be a block within that you may need to acknowledge and it’s now up to YOU to make sure you’re really ready to receive.

3) Change focus

After asking for something and giving it the energy etc, go do something else to take your mind of it. The more you start thinking about it, anxiety starts to creep in. So once the desire has been set, just stop thinking about it too much and wondering when it will happen.

4) Have Faith and Trust

Use words of trust and faith, belief and knowing that what you want is now yours in most magical ways. By refusing to wonder how, when, where etc, you’re trusting that the timing is always perfect and although you can’t see the bigger picture, you KNOW you’ll get what you want when the time is right.

5) Are you in Alignment?

Check to see how you’re still feeling about your desire. If fear has crept in, it’s a reminder to manage your vibe and get re-aligned with what you want. This is a daily practice! Music, visualisation, scripting, day dreaming all work for me, find something that works for you.

6) This or something better

Repeat after me: “This or something better is now manifesting in my life for the highest good of all concerned.” When you say this, instant peace. Cos that’s exactly what will happen.

Maybe something is on it’s way that’s even better and beyond what you could have dreamed up for yourself. Have patience, trust the process and do your part by keeping yourself in alignment with your desires.

Try these practices when you feel that familiar attachment creep up on you to help bring you back to what’s really important – being happy in the here and now.

What are some ways that work for you to release attachment?

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How To Manifest $60,000 Savings in 2 years using the Law of Attraction – If I Can Do It, So Can You!

May 1, 2009 by Tia · 16 Comments
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life, Passion 

The Law of Attraction says that what we focus on, we bring about.Money Money Money

A few years ago I hadn’t heard much about this but I did know that there were people who believed you could manifest your desires by focusing on them.

A lady I knew had cured herself of cancer by visualising herself as healthy and cancer free and going on a raw food diet. So I knew the mind had miraculous properties.

Well around that time I had a random thought “I’d love to have $100,000 in cash or liquid assets within 3 years”. . I had a total of $4,000 to my name, was living in a new country and starting over from scratch. And I had recently changed professions too!

Figured that would be a fun goal to achieve so let’s go for it.

I wrote this intention down on paper and came up with a few ideas on how I could make and save $.

Which included sharing a house with flatmates, not drinking, eating fewer lunches outside of the home etc. I still went to the movies, went to dinners, went out dancing, pretty much did whatever I wanted.

2 years and a few months later, I was at $60,000. On a highly inconsistent income working 8-9 months a year. Most people I knew (in and around my income bracket) were still living pay check to pay check even though some of them made more money.

This was mind-blowing – I’d never saved more than $2000-$4000 in my life, even when I earned twice as much in the past!

So how did this happen and what can you learn from it? Here’s what I learned.

1st lesson: It’s not what you make, it’s what you save.
2nd lesson: Setting an intention &  believing it will happen =  most likely will.
3rd lesson: Don’t focus on HOW it will happen, IF it will happen – your job is to ask, stay in alignment with your desire, and receive.

Looking back, this is what was KEY to my manifestation! I didn’t worry about the How’s, What’s, Where’s and When’s of it.

Also, I thought of it as fun, not something I needed so there was no attachment to it.

Yes of course I could do with more money! But I was already happy as I was and wasn’t desperate, needy or clingy. (As we all know by now, this is probably the most important component of manifesting what we want – having a clear, relaxed, fun vibe w/o the above)

If I were to outline the steps to take, this is somewhat like how it would go:

1) Decide on what you want and ask for it: “I want $100,000 in cash in the next couple of years”

2) Clearly state your time bound intention in the present tense: “I have $100,000 in cash in my bank as on Dec 31, 2009” – I also wrote down my immediate (next few months), short term (1-2 years) and long term (5 years) goals, but this is just me, you don’t have to unless inspired.

3) Know your reasons why: Why do you want this $? To travel? To feel secure? To have more time? To buy a home? To be happy? It’s important to be clear about this too because when you know why you want something, your desire is clear, strong and focused.

And the Universe likes clear instructions.

4) Take Inspired Action: It can look different for each of you. Just watch for a little voice, an unspeakable desire to do something, a sign from the Universe, follow your fun and ‘feel good’, trust your intuition -

In my case this was creating a budget and cutting down some expenses, brainstorming ways to earn $ in my career and taking out 20 books on money and abundance from the library – all of which made me feel good and kept me in the money vibe.

5) Stay focused on your intention: You can read it out every day, create a vision board, or just put it away after you’ve infused enough energy into it – I read out my intention everyday with full knowing and joy – I chose to believe this was happening right now. I did this for a month and then put it away.

6) Acknowledge all the abundance coming to you in different ways: green-applesgifts, pennies on the floor, free lunches and dinners, prizes you win, tips, raises, even perfect parking spots! – I noticed that I was getting more tips at work, was starting to win things, finding all my favorite clothes on sale – signs I took to mean money magic!

7) Do NOT be attached to how it will happen: eg, about $10 K was a gift from my parents and at first I thought “Oh THAT doesn’t count!” This reaction told me I had a hidden belief that I had to earn it all, that it had to be the result of WORK.

When in fact, attracting money is not work. The Universe takes the path of least resistance and quickest way to give you what you want. This brings me to the next point.

8 ) Examine your money beliefs: Now ideally you will have done this already but if not, this is a great time to look at what you think about money and change any negative beliefs that may be stopping you from experiencing real abundance.

Point to remember: These money beliefs are not yours, they were instilled in you as a child by your primary caretakers and thus, are THEIR beliefs that you took on. If you have good solid beliefs, you’re one of the lucky ones, congrats!

Most of us had to find our way into the world of new positive money beliefs and/or are still on that path. Hmmm I’m going to talk about this (and how to create new beliefs) in another blog post ‘cos there’s just so much to this topic!

9) Allow your goals to change: Yes, this can happen. You may realise you don’t want the initial thing after all, that what you really want instead is to be happy, have more time etc. -

After I got to $60,000 in about 2 years, I didn’t have the same passion about my original goal as before so I stopped giving energy to it. The experiment made me realise more of my values and that I could get what I wanted anytime as long as I was in alignment with my desire and believed I’d get it.

10) Celebrate your successes!! You are a powerful manifestor, take time to acknowledge and love that about yourself. Know that the world really is your oyster and you can choose to create what you want and live the life you dream about.

Instead of doubting your attraction powers, actively manage your thoughts, energy/vibration and desires. Success my friend, is yours!

Ps: these steps are just the order that came naturally to me – they are by no means a hard and fast rule, just a general guide!


Now it’s your turn! I know you have manifesting successes and would love to hear your story.

What about your money goals – do you think they are realistic? Unrealistic? What stops you from achieving them and what would help you get there? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts, ideas and responses!

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