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When Life Throws you a (few) Curve Ball(s) - How to Stay on Top?
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction
Wow, it’s been a crazy week all around. With Summer Solstice ending on June 24th, the big changes and healings promised have started to show up. It’s not even the matter of 2 celeb deaths (Michael Jackson & Farrah Fawcett) in one day, it’s not even the unrest in Iran, it’s not even the high # of angry drivers and car wrecks or the ends of many relationships, friendships, careers and lives.
It’s all of them and then some. I don’t know about you but to me it seems to go further. There’s a strange sort of vibe going around, a universal awakening of sorts and I can see it in many, many people’s lives all over the world. All at once it would seem!
Mostly, I see us looking through the chaos, and finding a clarity and strength that wasn’t as visible before. It’s a time for reflection, a time for endings, a time for patience and trust and the start of exciting, brand new beginnings. Oh and growth - spiritual, emotional, mental. Stretchy, scary and exhilerating!
I’m guessing many of you will have started seeing some signs of manifestations by now.
And I’d be willing to bet my last dollar (uh oh should I be putting this out there?) that for some of you, they may not look like what you thought, eg: you wanted to manifest a beautiful relationship and the one you’re in ends, leaving you hurt and frustrated. Or you thought you’d found the perfect job for you and now you’re unhappier than before and can’t figure out why.
Here’s the kicker - THIS is the manifestation! Your strong intention for the relationship or job of your dreams means that anyone or anything that’s not in alignment with it simply has to go whether you like it or not. Tack it down to how powerful your intention was (thanks for that, Kim)
And due to Summer Solstice energy, this can often happen in sudden, unexpected ways so don’t be surprised if you find yourself acting in ways you normally wouldn’t, because this. is. good. news.
Good news you ask? How so? Simply because it’s your higher consciousness giving you the extra push needed to get to the other side. The push which you may have resisted to avoid feeling loss, fear and pain if left to your own devices.
How lucky for you that your superconscious mind knows what you want and will use its power to get you there as long as you have been clear about your true desires :) It’s great to have divine help but I applaud your courage to trust the process, feel the fear and follow your path inspite of it. You rock!
Some of you have asked, how do you stay with the process and keep trusting when everything seems to be falling apart? Rest assured, time takes time but in the meanwhile, what you’ll find very helpful during this time of renewal and re-emergence is to:
- make peace with what is, you don’t have to like it but do acknowledge it
- feel, feel, feel through your emotions, don’t hold back
- talk/write about the things you have with appreciation
- continue to be grateful for all that is in your vibrational escrow and ready to appear in your physical world
- stay focused on what you want, affirm it daily
- keep blame and guilt to a minimum, not serving you!
- drink lots of water to hydrate & flush out toxic energies
- reach for a better feeling place one thought at a time
- practice extreme self love, forgiveness and gentleness towards yourself and others
- reach out for support - friends, books, meditation, blogs like this etc
- detach from the outcome and the process of wanting the manifestation to happen in a certain way - you have NO idea how wonderfully it is being orchestrated behing the scenes and by being attached to it happening your way, you’ll just block this universal magique (gosh how I love that word, can you tell!)
In fact, as Coach Sara Exley shared brilliantly, Attachment is giving your power away. It’s making something else responsible for your level of trust, relaxation, joy. Attachment is the energy that says “When I receive it, I’ll relax.” The energy of Allowing says, “Now that I’m relaxed, I’m receiving it!”
The reason attachment doesn’t feel so great is because the “Source” part of you knows that YOU are the power that makes the outcome, not the other way around. It’s not that attachment is “bad” or “wrong.” It’s just that the higher part of us knows that Allowing feels so much better.
How eye-opening and exciting is THAT!? Do remember, any time you blame anyone or anything for what is happening in your life, you are giving away all your power and peace of mind. If there is a hell on Earth, living as a victim with feelings of anger and blame defines it. If there is a heaven on Earth, living powerfully and lovingly as creator of our own lives defines it (Susan Jeffers).
Hang on, there’s more. It’s REALLY important to listen and watch carefully for those little nudges and intuitive spurts that seem to come from nowhere.
Take Inspired Action, follow those impulses and look for signs that affirm you’re on the right path. I get about 5-10 signs a day (up from 1-2 a week) and it’s re-assuring and gives me faith that all is indeed more than well.
At this very moment open yourself up to immense possibilities and trust that the immediate picture may be contributing to your larger journey in more ways than you can currently imagine. Trust that everything is happening in your best interest. AND IT IS!! Always.
Your manifestations are closer than you think. Rejoice in the juiciness of that delicious statement.
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What’s been your experience over the past week? Have you seen signs of land? Or the rug being pulled away from under your feet? I’ve had them so I’d love to hear from you! Any other thoughts or experiences you’d like to talk about? Thanks in advance for sharing!
Summer Solstice Intentions - Bring on Clarity and Intent, Baby!
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life, Passion
Today is June 21st, the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere also affectionately known as the Summer Solstice. I have it on GOOD authority from my favorite astrologer friend Kim Falconer and twitter friend Sophie (also mentioned in previous post) that anything you intend and create today and till June 24th is very powerful and will manifest within 6 months.
And when I felt a sudden bout of authenticity coursing through my senses 3 days ago and was compelled to talk about it here as well as on another forum I’m part of, it came along with the Mother Of All Headaches and wiped me out so completely that I couldn’t even move from my bed till past noon yesterday.
Now, I have 2-3 headaches a YEAR, and mostly when I’m sick so this was very unusual. At the same time my friend Kathy sent me a link to Sophie’s website and it all started making sense. Here’s what I read:
The December 08 winter solstice was unsettlingly powerful and kicked the cosmic doors open even more so than the consciousness upgrades of the previous 6 years. And now this coming Summer Solstice is pushing us beyond what most of us can comfortably accommodate!
Physically, it can be a little uncomfortable: from a tingly sensation, to heaviness in the head and neck, which could turn to a full blown headache. Vivid dreams, sometimes disturbing.
Holy Moly I thought! Here’s an explanation that makes my senses tingle. There’s no question about it, my dreams were incredibly vivid and I had developed a sudden pain under my right shoulder blade which made no sense at all. I went to bed with the aches and pains and knew when I woke up things were going to be very different and my body would feel great.
Haazaah! Bouncing out of bed this morning I felt so ALIVE and one with this world that you could see my cells dancing around with sheer abandon and pleasure and happiness washing over me like ocean waves …. It was so intense and joyous a feeling that I just HAD to tweet:
:D Feel like a superstar! Full of energy, :)’s, excitement & joy as I listen to playlist & make my list for the U! And it’s no co-incidence that the SUN is out today after 3 days of raining on my parade You know what the best part is? It’s not just me. I’ve had many friends tweet and talk about how things are stirring up for them and lots of healing seems to be happening around old, past issues - ALL in the past week.
This is a good time to forget, forgive and heal those parts of you that need your love and compassion. Anytime is a good time for that but I’m not averse to a little cosmic help to move things along.
So with that in mind, here are my intentions:
I live my life with passion and courage, vulnerability and authenticity.
I show up every day in every way - what you see is what you get.
I trust and know that I am provided for in nurturing, exciting ways.
I love and inspire myself and everyone who enters my consciousness.
I am a true leader, who walks along the same path as you.
I am a money magnet attracting $ easily and in big sums. BIG.
I am ridiculously happy and content, my dream life is my real life.
I am classy and graceful in all my interactions with people.
MORE goodies!!
Love having my fabulous friends over to BBQ’s at my gorgeous new 5BR home
Fabulous relationship with most amazing guy I ever met who rocks my world <3
Effortless 6 figure income that flows to me for 15 hours of “work” a week $$
Friends, family, loved ones around me, level of intimacy & connection is DIVINE!
And many, many more but I’ll save some space for you - so come join me ~
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It’s YOUR turn! What are you going to focus on and intend come true in the next 3 days? Say it out loud, write it down, infuse it with love and energy, and know, know, KNOW it will and is happenening.
Where Do You Draw The Line between Ego and Self?
Authenticity. Authenticity.
Also known as showing up fully.
This past month I’ve been living from ego rather than service. I let my authentic self be tarnished by feelings of competitiveness, living at 50% of myself, ignoring my values and not being fully present, real or honest with myself and others about my feelings and thoughts.
Nothing “bad” mind you - just restrictions everywhere I looked around. Life in this state is far from pure, joyous and happy. It can still be good but good isn’t enough for me anymore.
Who else feels they are sick of not expressing themselves fully?
Who else wants to shed their scales & emerge as they are?
Who else would like to live courageously & with integrity?
I for one am DONE with living an unauthentic life. With holding myself back for fear that I’ll be alone if no one wants to walk this path with me. With conforming and trying to look good (although those of you who know me may be giggling at the thought of me being a conformist hehe).
Since the last 2 days a lot has been stirring up for me (I learnt from Lynn Koiner and Sophie Lhoste that I’m not alone in this - apparently this summer solstice is a powerful time for changes and divine happenings - woohoo!) and I’m taking gulpy, brave steps to bring myself back from the edge of an ego-driven life, back to service, back to self.
Take the coaching competition I was entered in for instance. It all started as fun and games, asking people to vote for me, getting the word out about my blog, loving the traffic to my website, the supportive comments (esp the one from my mom - that rocked, thanks mum!) ·
Somewhere along the way though, I realised some uncoachlike behaviour was going on and allowed myself to be upset by the tricks other people were using to get to # 1. Everytime I saw people being voted down I would vote them up. And I’d wonder what I was doing in such a contest. Can you guess what happened next? Yep!
I wanted to play them at their own game. Survival of the best-est. And I didn’t like this feeling. That’s not me.
So yeah, it got to the point where I had to stop and question myself …. Why do I need someone to tell me my blog is the best? Would winning this contest make more people like me or make me special in some way? WHO gets to decide I’m the best (or not)? I’ve never liked competitions and in my LOA world, co-operation is a better feel-good place to be in over competition.
To compete fairly and test skills against another is beautiful, like athletes in their finest form. Because it brings the best out in others, rather than the worst. To bring others down while you go up? Not sooooooo much!
It started to not feel good anymore. And you who read this blog know this about me - I always follow my feel-good! If it’s not fun, I’m not doing it. I slacked in following my intuition. Ohh Bugggerr…
It’s scary and empowering to go out on a limb and saying what you need to, without fear of consequences. It’s easy for monkeys but to be a human hanging on the top of a branch, swinging wildly and suddenly letting go….!? Bump, rumble and roll. Ouch. That hurt. Pain sucks. Yet, letting go can teach you to look for where the growth and learning is.
To be authentic, I first had to acknowledge what I’ve not been wanting to, face my frailties and imperfections, embrace them, forgive them, love them and finally, share them with others.
So my friends, In all my ego driven glory, here I stand unveiled. And as I ask myself these questions, I ask you too:
Who do you think you are to live half a life?
One that’s not passionate, fulfilling, authentic and happy?
Where do you get off blaming other people?
What are you not taking responsibility for?
What is the learning from this?
What do you really, really want?
The glory or the peace? True happiness or ego-driven accolades?
Feel free to ask me “who are you to get me to stand up and take charge of my own life”!? I am no-one. And I am everyone. You get to choose if you want to or not.
With this in mind, I’ve decided that what feels good and authentic is to remove myself from this contest. Partly in support of my fellow contestant and friend Dana and partly because my intuition says this is the right thing to do. The little voice in my head saying “but you could win this and be more popular” can just go take a hike. Be sure to take a camel along, it’s a long trip where you’re going!
THANK YOU to all of you who voted me to # 1 - I’ve saved all your comments 
I am still glad I entered this contest for I know even more now that my worth does not depend on what someone says or thinks about me.
It depends on what I believe to be true. It’s reminded me AGAIN that real happiness and peace come from being true to oneself, and true to others. It showed me how many amazing friends and loyal readers I have. It re-inforced the power of synergy (where my friends and I voted for each other as opposed to taking each other down).
It helped me be kind and loving to myself and accept my imperfections. And my desire for you is to do the same for yourself.
I want you to live your best life ever. I want you to unleash your awesomeness on the world, warts and all.
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You can start by sharing your thoughts and feelings about how you want to show up MORE in your life in the comments section. I am here to listen, encourage and love you AS YOU ARE. You rock my friend
Expectations - Mother of All Muck-ups or Vital Ingredient of Life?
A late night tweet from me saying “Happiness is yours when you learn to manage your expectations from/of others and make it a preference instead of a need” brought on a flurry of retweets and replies from people.
As it turns out, I’m not alone when it comes to expecting things and being disappointed when I don’t get what I want. Astonishing, isn’t it ;)?
Anyone who’s ever felt the same way, wiggle your pinkie finger now!
Hm, why do I KNOW you’d just as easily as me lay a wager on our expectations being the root cause of most unhappiness? Feel free to say it isn’t so if I’m being presumptuous.
In my experience, there are various types of expectations - from expecting love, respect, dignity, justice to expecting people to do certain things for you whether they like it or not, treat you like a prince/princess, spend more time with you than their friends, come home on time, buy you gifts, etc.
But here’s the thing. I’m not saying any of these are good or bad.
They just are what they are and will affect your mojo as much as you let them.
It’s when some expectations start affecting the quality of your daily life experiences and relationships and lead to disappointment, anger, insecurity, fear, grief, frustration, doubt and worry, that you might want to step back and ask yourself a few questions. If you don’t want to spend a lot of time in the cesspool of blame and disappointment, that is.
Questions that might go somewhat like:
- Am I expecting too much from others?
- WHY do I need that (from them)?
- What am I asking others for that I’m not giving to myself?
- What do I really want that’s behind these wants? I.e, do I want to be heard, loved, seen, respected, nurtured, validated?
- Recognise the desire beneath the want. Then decide if it’s a non-negotiable or a whim.
What next? How can you go about learning to *manage* your expectations (and should you even do that?).
Call it acknowledging, changing, reframing, or anything you like but know that you create your reality and can choose to expect with attachment or detachment - that will be a big factor in how you ultimately experience it.
And while we’re at it,
Realise that no matter who you are, NO one owes you anything.
Yes, it’s bloody fantastic when people meet our expectations, just be aware that it won’t happen all the time and neither is that healthy. If you always got what you wanted, then what about others wants that might clash with yours? And where would your learning come from?
Make it a preference instead of a need. Preference = unattached to outcome. Need = attached to outcome. When there is a preference you would like something to be a certain way but regardless, your happiness doesn’t depend on it. When you *need* something, you’re creating and focusing on the lack around you and letting it control your happy button.
Us humans will always have wants, needs, desires and expectations, some of which will come to fruition and some that won’t. If the ultimate goal is happiness, then consider this as one more tool to help you along the way.
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What role do expectations play in YOUR life? Was there a time you successfully changed an expectation that was keeping you stuck and what was the result? Looking forward to hearing your insights and experiences!
Detox Your Body, Thoughts and Life
“I’ve never dieted in my life, I don’t believe in detoxes!”
This was me up until 4 days ago. A whole new world has opened up since. New foods that
I’d never heard of (yummm almond butter! Great substitute for my Nutella addiction ;), salads I’d never made, an eating plan I’d never followed.
You mean people actually eat 3-6 meals a day? I was the brekkie at noon kinda girl (and I still may well be after the detox, but in a healthier, more aware of what I’m eating kinda way).
You know that moment in time when you realise something you’ve always known and heard about and believed at some level but it never really sank in until then? The one that makes you smack your forehead and go “I get it”?!
Yep. Yeah, that’s the one I had this morning as I bounced out of bed with an energy I haven’t felt in yonks i.e., a very long time. My 4th day of ridding my body of toxins. It’s a “wow, this feels so great I can’t believe I waited so many years to start being healthy” mindset.
Have you noticed how your mind and inner being feel so much lighter when you’re healthier? What you put into your body and mind is what you get out of it. Squeeze the proverbial orange and you won’t get apple juice … y’know how that story goes.
But luckily, there isn’t just one way to do it. You can start with detoxing your thoughts and beliefs and let the ripple effects cascade into your life. Consciously choosing better feeling thoughts will give you more positivity, focus and gusto and this in turn will lead to you feeling more energetic.
Change what goes into your body to change what goes into your mind or vice-versa. Either ways, you win!
Fact is, most of what you eat, do, say, think, feel is a result of habitual patterns. You are living an unconscious life when you don’t take a minute to stop and ask what and why you’re eating, doing, saying, thinking and feeling what you are. How many unhealthy habits do you persist with because you have gotten too lazy, too careless, too comfortable with them?
I know, let’s start with thoughts! Do you know how many thoughts you have in a day? Anywhere from 20,000 - 60,000 apparently. And about 80% of that self-talk is “negative” (source: some scientific research I lost the link to).
Sound like an exaggeration? Consider this: within the span of a few seconds your mental chattering monkey jumps from “Wish I had my coffee” to “I’m sick of this traffic” to “I should have done/said/ xyz” to “Why can’t I just stop thinking so much” to “I hope we’re not having soup for dinner again”. Exhausting, isn’t it?
Truth be told, much of what you believe and think every day comes from societal and parental conditioning. But wait, there’s hope! Just like you can learn to think about the food you eat and what it does for your body, you can also start learning how to think in positive, inspiring ways. That’s right, this is how you can change your self-limiting beliefs to those that serve you.
Here’s the deal. Detoxing the way you think can be hard at first. Just like when you train your body to get rid of toxins and cravings, and don’t build muscles overnight in a gym, it’s the same with your thoughts. Of course it takes a bit of effort and commitment to see results.
Want some tips to help you start rewriting your ‘story’ & detoxify your thoughts?
1) Practice Awareness daily - keep a little journal or notebook close at hand and as you think a thought, write it down. At the end of the day you’ll have a fair idea of just how much of your thinking is toxic and unproductive.
2) Start examining these thoughts - are they pointing to a deep rooted belief? What is that belief? Is it true? Or are you just used to thinking a certain way?
3) Open Your Mind - to new ways of thinking. Look at things and situations from more than one perspective. You don’t have to agree with another point of view but you’ll be training yourself to be curious and open to changing your beliefs.
I’m curious - does detoxing your body and then your mind work better for you or do you find you have to change the way you think to get healthier 1st? I’d love to know what works for YOU!
Are You Making It Easy?
I choose EASY!
So I was hanging out in twitterverse when I came across this quick post by Jeannette Maw and I went YEAH! That is SO not me either.
Granted it’s a story we’ve heard all too often - fight for what you want, never give up, good things come to those who persist, you’ve got to work hard, nothing comes without a struggle etc etc.
Ugh. I can feel my body react to these words in a way that just puts me off doing anything at all.
I’m not kidding when I say I’m addicted to EASY.
Doing easy, letting things flow is FUN. And effective!
If you’re anything like me, you like to manifest and attract the things you want rather than swimming upstream (ie, working hard).
When you’re out having fun and doing what feels good, that’s when magic happens.
So let go of the notion that getting what you want has to be hard work. It doesn’t.
What are you making harder than it needs to be? How can you make it easier and more effortless than it is right now?
Let it go perhaps … or look at it from another perspective?
What would Winnie the Pooh tell you to do?
3 Ways to Manage Confusion & Overwhelm
There are days when everything seems perfect. When life seems to be flowing smoothly.. you get a new client, make a big sale, your boss loves you, people rave about you, your partner is happy and loving, the kids are being angels, and progress is effortless.
And then there are the days mired in confusion, when nothing makes sense, when your wonderful new idea seems unattainable, your dreams seem distant and you can’t seem to get anything right.
What then? You know it’s a phase, but how do you get out of it? Here are a few tricks I use.
1) Find the nearest book on personal development, spirituality etc around you and ask “what do I need to know or hear most right now”.
Then open the book randomly. Nine times out of ten the answer will be in your face. I’ve done this without fail many times and always feel peaceful and calm with the result even if I don’t understand it at the time.
2) Allow the moments of confusion. There will be moments of real clarity and just when you think you’ve got it figured out, confusion may set in.
Be OKAY with it for confusion could be your inner critic (known as saboteur) creating fear to stop you from moving ahead, or something else could be in the process of happening that will add to or be even better than you could have imagined.
Whatever the reason, by accepting the state that’s present, you will relax and let go of needing to know right away. And by doing that you’re back in flow again and leaving the door open for change.
3) Distract your mind by physically moving around, going for a walk, listening to music, reading a book - anything that will get you up and moving.
When you are being active, more oxygen goes into the body (esp. the brain which consumes around 20% of the body’s oxygen intake!) and that increases mental abilities, reduces stress and fatigue and boosts the immune system - all of which helps bring in more focus and clarity.
Just try these 3 things the next time you feel overwhelmed and you’ll find it really makes a difference.
Do you have other ways that work well for you and can share with us? I’m looking forward to hearing them!
Ps: the book I use is “The Little Book of Peace” by Susan Jeffers
7 Fun Ways to Manage your Vibe!
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, life coaching
Those of you who practice the law of attraction know by now that it’s not just your thoughts that are important to watch, it’s your vibe (energy you bring to what you are creating) where it all starts.
This came up again today on an amazing forum I’m a part of, where we are sharing our best practices, i.e., what we do to bring up our vibe / energy to high levels and how we can maintain them.
I KNOW some of you have similar questions so I’m sharing what I shared on the forum and hope you’ll be inspired to find some ways that work for YOU too.
In which you Know What You Are Good At & Acknowledge It:
For e.g.: What I do really really well is follow my fun, take inspired action and do what feels good! If that means not leaving the house for 2 days, so be it. If it means baking cakes at 10pm and eating half of it, I do it. If it means waiting till the last minute to make a decision, I do and it works out perfectly!
Sometimes it can feel like your inside child / teenager is running the show and all you do is make sure she/he has the space and freedom to follow her heart. Let them rule for a bit and see what happens.
Action: Take a piece of paper or open a word document and write down ALL the things you are good at.
In which you Learn Quick Fun Ways to Manage Your Vibe:
It MORE than helps to keep in mind that feeling good is what counts and will lead you to what you want.
o Gratitude and appreciation are big – Wherever you are, look around and find something to appreciate. Usually something you take for granted that you’d really miss if it wasn’t around. E.g.: When I’m in the kitchen I’ll look at my microwave and smile cos I’m so happy to have it! And the green doors, the flowers my friend got me, the cute orange rug - I REALLY love and appreciate all my stuff everyday!
o This can lift your vibe sky high: put on a collection of happy songs (I created one especially for upping my vibe http://blip.fm/tia_singh) and do a happy skippy dance or sing out REALLY loud to them. As you do, thank the Universe for your perfect life, awesome new home, fabulous clients, gorgeous bf/gf, promotion at work and everything else you have or are manifesting.
o Take out stuff you kinda like or are tolerating – you know, those things that don’t make you happy looking at them (like old clothes you no longer like, papers all around, the cushion covers that need to R.I.P) - and let ‘em GO. Give/throw/sell. It’s a GREAT way to feel lighter and happier and you’ll be creating space for what REALLY gets your groove on!
o Rev up the MONEY vibe – When you take $ out of the ATM, whip out a pen and add numbers to it. E.g. if it shows $5,000 make it $50,000 or $15,000. Pick a number that feels GOOD to you and makes you smile. When bills show up, how about being appreciative of the $ in your bank that lets you pay them? I usually say a little thanks and pretend its money coming in 
hehe.
o Cultivate Trust and an Inner Knowing – that things always work out in your highest interest even if you can’t see that at the moment. Don’t be attached to having it the way you want. Ok we all get attached sometimes but if you can let that go (by focusing on what’s really behind that desire – happiness, love, joy etc.) you’ll find that you can be happy here and now. Practice makes perfect so keep practicing this belief till it starts feeling real to you.
o Use your environment! I have little pretty sticky notes with short goals like “work 15 hours a week ” and “100 articles on EzineArticles.com by July 2009″ stuck on my wall so I can see them all the time and keep focused. Think of how you’ll feel when that goal manifests and be that way now.
o Pictures!! LOTS of photos of friends, good times at beaches, patios, concerts etc - pix of times you were really happy – create a picture wall and look at it when you need a vibe upper. Also a reminder of all that’s already good in your life and an indication of just how much you have ALREADY manifested.
I would love to hear the ways you manage your vibe! What works well for you? Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts & tips with the rest of us, thanks!
How To Manifest $60,000 Savings in 2 years using the Law of Attraction - If I Can Do It, So Can You!
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, Life, Passion
The Law of Attraction says that what we focus on, we bring about.
A few years ago I hadn’t heard much about this but I did know that there were people who believed you could manifest your desires by focusing on them.
A lady I knew had cured herself of cancer by visualising herself as healthy and cancer free and going on a raw food diet. So I knew the mind had miraculous properties.
Well around that time I had a random thought “I’d love to have $100,000 in cash or liquid assets within 3 years”. . I had a total of $4,000 to my name, was living in a new country and starting over from scratch. And I had recently changed professions too!
Figured that would be a fun goal to achieve so let’s go for it.
I wrote this intention down on paper and came up with a few ideas on how I could make and save $.
Which included sharing a house with flatmates, not drinking, eating fewer lunches outside of the home etc. I still went to the movies, went to dinners, went out dancing, pretty much did whatever I wanted.
2 years and a few months later, I was at $60,000. On a highly inconsistent income working 8-9 months a year. Most people I knew (in and around my income bracket) were still living pay check to pay check even though some of them made more money.
This was mind-blowing – I’d never saved more than $2000-$4000 in my life, even when I earned twice as much in the past!
So how did this happen and what can you learn from it? Here’s what I learned.
1st lesson: It’s not what you make, it’s what you save.
2nd lesson: Setting an intention & believing it will happen = most likely will.
3rd lesson: Don’t focus on HOW it will happen, IF it will happen – your job is to ask, stay in alignment with your desire, and receive.
Looking back, this is what was KEY to my manifestation! I didn’t worry about the How’s, What’s, Where’s and When’s of it.
Also, I thought of it as fun, not something I needed so there was no attachment to it.
Yes of course I could do with more money! But I was already happy as I was and wasn’t desperate, needy or clingy. (As we all know by now, this is probably the most important component of manifesting what we want – having a clear, relaxed, fun vibe w/o the above)
If I were to outline the steps to take, this is somewhat like how it would go:
1) Decide on what you want and ask for it: “I want $100,000 in cash in the next couple of years”
2) Clearly state your time bound intention in the present tense: “I have $100,000 in cash in my bank as on Dec 31, 2009” - I also wrote down my immediate (next few months), short term (1-2 years) and long term (5 years) goals, but this is just me, you don’t have to unless inspired.
3) Know your reasons why: Why do you want this $? To travel? To feel secure? To have more time? To buy a home? To be happy? It’s important to be clear about this too because when you know why you want something, your desire is clear, strong and focused.
And the Universe likes clear instructions.
4) Take Inspired Action: It can look different for each of you. Just watch for a little voice, an unspeakable desire to do something, a sign from the Universe, follow your fun and ‘feel good’, trust your intuition -
In my case this was creating a budget and cutting down some expenses, brainstorming ways to earn $ in my career and taking out 20 books on money and abundance from the library – all of which made me feel good and kept me in the money vibe.
5) Stay focused on your intention: You can read it out every day, create a vision board, or just put it away after you’ve infused enough energy into it - I read out my intention everyday with full knowing and joy – I chose to believe this was happening right now. I did this for a month and then put it away.
6) Acknowledge all the abundance coming to you in different ways: 
gifts, pennies on the floor, free lunches and dinners, prizes you win, tips, raises, even perfect parking spots! - I noticed that I was getting more tips at work, was starting to win things, finding all my favorite clothes on sale – signs I took to mean money magic!
7) Do NOT be attached to how it will happen: eg, about $10 K was a gift from my parents and at first I thought “Oh THAT doesn’t count!” This reaction told me I had a hidden belief that I had to earn it all, that it had to be the result of WORK.
When in fact, attracting money is not work. The Universe takes the path of least resistance and quickest way to give you what you want. This brings me to the next point.
8 ) Examine your money beliefs: Now ideally you will have done this already but if not, this is a great time to look at what you think about money and change any negative beliefs that may be stopping you from experiencing real abundance.
Point to remember: These money beliefs are not yours, they were instilled in you as a child by your primary caretakers and thus, are THEIR beliefs that you took on. If you have good solid beliefs, you’re one of the lucky ones, congrats!
Most of us had to find our way into the world of new positive money beliefs and/or are still on that path. Hmmm I’m going to talk about this (and how to create new beliefs) in another blog post ‘cos there’s just so much to this topic!
9) Allow your goals to change: Yes, this can happen. You may realise you don’t want the initial thing after all, that what you really want instead is to be happy, have more time etc. -
After I got to $60,000 in about 2 years, I didn’t have the same passion about my original goal as before so I stopped giving energy to it. The experiment made me realise more of my values and that I could get what I wanted anytime as long as I was in alignment with my desire and believed I’d get it.
10) Celebrate your successes!! You are a powerful manifestor, take time to acknowledge and love that about yourself. Know that the world really is your oyster and you can choose to create what you want and live the life you dream about.
Instead of doubting your attraction powers, actively manage your thoughts, energy/vibration and desires. Success my friend, is yours!
Ps: these steps are just the order that came naturally to me – they are by no means a hard and fast rule, just a general guide!
Now it’s your turn! I know you have manifesting successes and would love to hear your story.
What about your money goals - do you think they are realistic? Unrealistic? What stops you from achieving them and what would help you get there? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts, ideas and responses!
6 Steps to Release Attachment and Manifest Your Desires Faster
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Intention, Law of Attraction, life coaching
On the topic of LOA … you already know how important it is to let go of any sort of neediness, 
desperation or attachment to manifesting your desires once you’ve set an Intention to attract them. Right?
But sometimes as you ALSO probably well know, it’s hard! When you really want that vacation, a raise, a new relationship, new clients, more time, a successful business, how do you let go of the attachment to the outcome?
1) Turn it over to the Universe
Write a list and get the Universe on the job. Throw a tantrum if you have to like I did last week! I told off the Universe for not doing the job, wrote a list of what I wanted, stuck it on the wall and said “All yours Universe, time for you to Step Up to the Plate thanks!”
2) Check your receiving radar
The Universe often delivers pretty soon after a demand like that! If you find yourself still sabotaging what you want, or if you get part of it but not all, sit down as ask yourself “am I really ready to receive”? There could be a block within that you may need to acknowledge and it’s now up to YOU to make sure you’re really ready to receive.
3) Change focus
After asking for something and giving it the energy etc, go do something else to take your mind of it. The more you start thinking about it, anxiety starts to creep in. So once the desire has been set, just stop thinking about it too much and wondering when it will happen.
4) Have Faith and Trust
Use words of trust and faith, belief and knowing that what you want is now yours in most magical ways. By refusing to wonder how, when, where etc, you’re trusting that the timing is always perfect and although you can’t see the bigger picture, you KNOW you’ll get what you want when the time is right.
5) Are you in Alignment?
Check to see how you’re still feeling about your desire. If fear has crept in, it’s a reminder to manage your vibe and get re-aligned with what you want. This is a daily practice! Music, visualisation, scripting, day dreaming all work for me, find something that works for you.
6) This or something better
Repeat after me: “This or something better is now manifesting in my life for the highest good of all concerned.” When you say this, instant peace. Cos that’s exactly what will happen.
Maybe something is on it’s way that’s even better and beyond what you could have dreamed up for yourself. Have patience, trust the process and do your part by keeping yourself in alignment with your desires.
Try these practices when you feel that familiar attachment creep up on you to help bring you back to what’s really important - being happy in the here and now.
What are some ways that work for you to release attachment?
Your 3 Most Pressing Questions About Inspired Action answered
Filed under: Conscious Creation, Inspired Action, Law of Attraction, life coaching
What Does Inspired Action Look Like?
Someone asked this question recently: “What exactly IS Inspired Action and how do I know the action I’m taking is inspired or not? I often hesitate to take action that doesn’t seem to be inspired action to me. So how does it feel to you?”
The short answer is: If it feels good, it’s probably inspired action.
Sometimes inspired action feels like a force you can’t ignore, that literally moves you to a certain action even if it doesn’t make sense to you.
So when you find yourself suddenly taking a different route to work, or stopping by the grocery store even when you don’t need anything, it’s likely an intuitive sense that’s guiding you to take that action.
Sometimes it feels like a little voice in your head that says “bake a cake” or “call a friend”. It does not have to hit you like a hammer, it can often be very subtle, like a butterfly’s whisper on your cheek. A feeling in your body. Heightened senses.
So don’t worry if it doesn’t feel like it “should” because it can be different every time. Find out what speaks to you. Tune into your intuition. And take it from there.
If you’re still struggling with how it should feel, you’re probably trying too hard.
When Do I Take Inspired Action? Now you might ask “if nothing feels good in that moment, do I just sit there and twiddle my thumbs while I wait for inspiration?”
You know what? Sometimes taking small action - like getting up and going for a walk can actually change the vibration you’re in and lead to Inspired Action.
Ask “what would feel better than this” and you WILL find something that feels a little better. Keep doing what feels a little better each time and soon you’ll be doing what feels good.
Do anything that changes your current physical and mental space. UNLESS of course feeling good at that moment means doing nothing but lying down or napping etc. That works well too!
You do know that if you’re doing something that doesn’t make you feel good because you think you should, or because that’s what other people do, you’ll just block yourself from source energy right?
What feels good to others may not feel good to you and vice-versa. Just be careful about making excuses for not doing something!
How Does It Feel? Does Inspired Action always feel good or can it feel nervous and anxious?
From my experience, it almost always feels good. Good can mean calm or exciting, a solid knowing or a gut feel, there are no rules here except for it just feels right somehow. The anxiety could be partly fear .. which can be a natural part of starting something new, all those feelings of will it work, how will I do this etc.
As long as it’s not stopping you from taking action, don’t give those feelings any energy. Unless you sense it’s your intuition speaking strongly to you, in which case, follow that feeling.
Does this bring up any questions for you? How do you know when YOU are taking inspired action? I’d love to hear your thoughts below.
Are You Trying Too Hard?
To get it right?
To be perfect?
To win?
To do what you think you should do, so that things work out they way you think they should?
I have been. All month!
This was the month I was going to write my fabulous articles about money and our beliefs around them. When I was going to inspire many people to look into their beliefs, challenge them and help them change their money relationship. When I was going to power through and blow all obstacles out of the water!
I tried. I wrote a few drafts, I thought about the best way to write it etc.
And guess what? Nothing! No inspiration, no words flowing, nada.
Flavour of the month.. didn’t do what I said I would, my ezine was 2 days late, I didn’t go to the gym for 3 weeks, I’m feeling guilty about wasting money, not eating right etc. Pile it ON!
By resisting these feelings I was only making it worse. It took reading a blog post by my mentor and most amazing friend Jeannette to wake me up to what I’ve been doing.
Fighting the natural order of things, the way I am and trying to change too much too fast and expecting it to be perfect.
Now one might say there’s nothing wrong about expecting change to be perfect and one might agree but one might also have to be aligned with that feeling Hello, I forgot that caterpillars have to wriggle their way of of their cocoon to turn into butterflies .. it can get a little uncomfortable at times I’m guessing.
When we feel resistance to not doing our best, that makes some of us not do our best .. actually it makes some of us not do anything at all! Until we feel guilty and do something totally uninspired.
For me, this month has been uninspiring in terms of writing blog posts - so I re-purposed 2 articles/ezine issues into posts. They turned out to be the ones with the least comments or engagement so far. The Universe sensed the energy it was done with, much?
- So from not ever working out to going to the gym 4-5 times a week for a month = too much of a change for me to handle, hence 0 visits the 2nd month.
- From writing hardly any blog posts to promising to write a great one that would change your life = setting myself up for failure.
- From never joining contests to even caring about them to joining a Best Coaching Blogs contest and wanting to win = I’m not good enough if I don’t. Being first means I’m the BEST, darn it! And BEST = Perfect!
I still want to win but it’s not *that* important anymore. Phew! Guess I’m not always going to be the best … get it right or be perfect or win or only do what feels good ay ;). Now how did I forget that? Ahh that’s right, cos I Was TRYING TOO HARD! You know what I’m talking about, don’t you.
Giving Up Resistance ~
So I’m relinquishing the fight as well. I give up expecting myself to know it all, have it all and look like I do. I give up the urge to tell myself I have too much to do and instead appreciate how much I’ve done!
And I know that when I write the Money and Beliefs post it will happen when the timing is perfect and will probably help more people when I do write it than if I did it last week. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!
I let go of my resistance to go the gym and stop sponsoring them thanks to my lack of usage. They’re nice people, they deserve my money! So, Gym people, you’re welcome to my $70 for May and I hope you spend it on lattes and ice-creams in this gorgeous weather.
I love how Inspired Action shows up when I’m least expecting it! From not being able to write for 2 weeks to banging out this post within minutes. That’s my feel good and that’s how I’ll always do it. Yeah!
This already feels lighter. I’m off to eat some Horlicks out of the jar (wld’ve been Nutella but I ran out). This giving up resistance thing feels good.
What do YOU do when you find yourself trying too hard?
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